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  • #220500

    cantak
    Member

    I have a girl who is finding it difficult to see me talk to other Brazilians now that I can speak little Portuguese, though I understand more than I can speak. Learning Portuguese was a threat to her. Because I usually I needed her to do everything for me earlier. And she was not happy all the while I was learning Portuguese afraid i would speak to other girls. The insecurity was driving me nuts but now worse than ever. Taking a run is difficult too. Though I wouldn’t mind loosing couple of investments or things that I’ve bought over the time/ something kept in her care. I like to really be me.
    I’ve made a mistake and spoke about leaving/breaking up or I and her being friends. Since then her insecurity and possessiveness is worse. I can’t talk about taking a trip to see other friends now or anything that would have me leave town. I may have to disappear cowardly when she is out. Which she isn’t trying to do. Don’t know how long this will last. Anybody been in similar situation.
    Can’t go out alone. Can’t take a walk alone. Difficult to use my phone or use the computer without her trying to have a look randomly. But when she uses my Ipad she deletes usage history. But I leave mine. I know this is an unhealthy relationship – but how to get out without feeling any guilt that I lead her on. I used to love her but got choked with the jealousy and possessiveness. Can’t breath, cant think straight. Had a friend visit me from Europe I f**king bored him to frustration because I can’t spend enough time with him to take him around, act like we usually do. He is so mad at me for making him come to Brazil and bore him. This is a close friend more than friend we do lots of business together too. He was forced to tell other buddies of ours. Now everybody mad at me. They her surprised I could take all this sh*t and just be calm. Like I have steeped very low.
    Maybe cos I’m not working regular job which have to take me away from the house. All I do is talk on phones, reply to emails.. I have few businesses I can manage remotely. Maybe I should go rent an office. She is alright when I’m on the phone speaking English as long as I do not speak Portuguese.
    So will buying an air ticket 3days in advance and calling up a taxi be the route? I once tried it while she was home and she wouldn’t let me out of the house – crying begging to be more liberal, but wont change
    virtalist20002012-09-09 10:11:23

  • #220503

    doctorlili
    Member

    No, you don’t just secretly disappear. You will use this situation to develop some muscles and be a man with her. It all starts here: You say “I can’t” do what you want and be yourself. That’s the key here. Why can’t you?
    Secondly, what is she giving into the relationship? Herself? Totally? Smoking hot desire, passion, sex? Or is she just wielding power over you leaving you in a prison of boredom?
    Finally, she deletes her usage history. Time to step it up man. You are in the middle of one massive sh*t-Test, and you are failing it. Better use the opportunity now to learn to pass, else you will fail in your next relationship again.
    Face your fears and go through them. Feel like walking on eggshells? Step into the eggs with gusto. Fight, and enjoy the make-up sex.Squiddie2012-09-09 10:17:39

  • #220511

    Anonymous


    Do the right thing and leave her before you get a kitchen knife to the belly.

  • #220513

    cantak
    Member

    Lol kitchen knife

  • #220517

    Caio Andretta
    Participant

    Hard position you are in mate… I think you should listen to Squiddie and try to change the situation. My girlfriend isn’t as possesive as you describe your girlfriend, but still it annoys me sometimes. I think it’s more of a cultural thing, girls seem to be afraid to lose a good and decent guy once they find one. So there is a small compliment hidden in her behaviour.
    If that doesn’t work, indeed start watching out for the kitchen knife.

  • #220518

    jaenicoll
    Member

    Goddam 90% of Brazilian women are so lame. My GF is relatively normal but reading these threads I feel like I hit the lottery. I think if we broke up I would never go out with another Brazilian. The worst part is that they are not as hot as they think they are and most are completely boring intellectually. Brazilian women in general suck. I would take a Spanish or Argentine girl over a Brazilian any day.

  • #220530

    cantak
    Member

    Well maybe dating a Brazilian girl that have lived in the West for sometime may be better. She may have a broader view and experience with other culture. They don’t want to leave their comfort zones. They expect you to adapt/adopt theirs. And another lol at intellectually boring.

  • #220532

    doctorlili
    Member

    Here is what bothers me about this dear Mr. Virtalist. You have been starting multiple threads like this, but you don’t keep at it. You just go away and then start another thread. This way you don’t develop and don’t learn.

  • #220533

    cantak
    Member

    I got away from the other thread when it was digressed. And the topic or the subject of the matter or thread became less important with people discussing other matters than the initial purpose of the topic.

  • #220537

    Steven
    Participant

    As with Esprit, I find myself unable to avoid these posts. Perhaps like a drug addict trying to go straight but returning, nonetheless, to get my nickel bag. I think that I am 50% with the Squid on this one but not entirely. First of all – get out. This will never work. Ever. Don’t waste too much more time on this relationship – you don’t need this in your life. However, don’t go slinking away in the dead of night like a dog who has been kicked one time too often. Be a man. Lay down the law. Strut your stuff. Pound on the table. Your way or the highway. But……the finale is predictable. She will not change. Then, you can walk out the door with your head held high and use the lessons learned in your next relationship. Just make sure that you walk out the door facing her. Watch out for the knife.

  • #220580

    drpepper.7
    Member

    This sounds like my relationship. I stayed and the result is that I am screwed. Get out. You only live once and shouldn’t let a temporary problem become a permanent disaster.dpm1212012-09-10 12:54:50

  • #220590

    minhnoir
    Member

    Get out of there, and don’t look back. You don’t need that kind of nonsense in your life. Also, people who are that paranoid are almost always up to something.

  • #220592

    cantak
    Member

    Gave a last chance with re-instating likes and dislikes. I wanted the runaway way. Say I’m going for a trip (but knowing I wont come back). Then she started asking the questions over again. If I was going for real. Voce embora? Voce quer levar todo seu baggage? … Sim eu emborar. Then goes the circle of apologize and how things will be better. But actually she does adjust a little after serous arguments that gets to me leaving. Now its the 3rd time of this circle. Though nothing is changing the trip to see my friend. Only that I will come back. But then if the same situation repeats itself I guess i will take the last trip.
    The firs time I tried to go she took an overdose of sleep pill and had to call her family in. And stayed to see that she was stabilized.

  • #220600

    jaenicoll
    Member

    Oh boy, she is not going to change. A person like that is not thoughtful and self reflective enough to change. Even if you point out the errors. Next time she may give you the sleeping pills…

  • #220658

    Gilmour
    Member

    My wife was possessive (but not as bad as the OP) until — take a wild guess? — she got pregnant.
    OP, women need a lot of sex, not just for making babies, but also for self-esteem and a lot of other factors. You not putting out could be attributing to the problem. Since you’re not working a real job, do it 3-4 times a day(or more). THEN I doubt she will complain about you going out.

  • #220683

    minhnoir
    Member

    I’d just get away from her altogether. Based on what the OP has told us, she’s either manipulative, crazy, or some mixture of both.

  • #220708

    jaenicoll
    Member

    Who, honestly wants to bone thier wife 3-4 times a day over an extended period. I could easily bone 3-4 different girls a day over an extended period but the same girl? That just gets old really quick. As somebody once said: No matter how hot the girl is, somebody is tired of F-ing her.

  • #220709

    [QUOTE=Squiddie]No, you don’t just secretly disappear. You will use this situation to develop some muscles and be a man with her. It all starts here: You say “I can’t” do what you want and be yourself. That’s the key here. Why can’t you?
    Secondly, what is she giving into the relationship? Herself? Totally? Smoking hot desire, passion, sex? Or is she just wielding power over you leaving you in a prison of boredom?
    Finally, she deletes her usage history. Time to step it up man. You are in the middle of one massive sh*t-Test, and you are failing it. Better use the opportunity now to learn to pass, else you will fail in your next relationship again.
    Face your fears and go through them. Feel like walking on eggshells? Step into the eggs with gusto. Fight, and enjoy the make-up sex.[/QUOTE]
    Whilst reading this reply I was proud to see who the author was, you really have grown Squid since the last thread that we spoke about. Very sound advice I’d say, the jealousy of these Brazilian fire-crackers is on another level.

  • #220710

    [QUOTE=spongebob]My wife was possessive (but not as bad as the OP) until — take a wild guess? — she got pregnant.
    OP, women need a lot of sex, not just for making babies, but also for self-esteem and a lot of other factors. You not putting out could be attributing to the problem. Since you’re not working a real job, do it 3-4 times a day(or more). THEN I doubt she will complain about you going out.
    [/QUOTE]
    LOL what planet are you living on my friend…I want to join you LOLWomen don’t need alot of sex at least not the ones that I have known. You know the story, it’s all downhill after marriage at least in that department anyway…

  • #220713

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=nesne2] Oh boy, she is not going to change. A person like that is not thoughtful and self reflective enough to change. Even if you point out the errors. Next time she may give you the sleeping pills…[/QUOTE]
    Chumbinho works as well…

  • #220714

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    [QUOTE=spongebob]My wife was possessive (but not as bad as the OP) until — take a wild guess? — she got pregnant.OP, women need a lot of sex, not just for making babies, but also for self-esteem and a lot of other factors. You not putting out could be attributing to the problem. Since you’re not working a real job, do it 3-4 times a day(or more). THEN I doubt she will complain about you going out.
    [/QUOTE]LOL what planet are you living on my friend…I want to join you LOLWomen don’t need alot of sex at least not the ones that I have known.¬† You know the story, it’s all downhill after marriage at least in that department anyway…[/QUOTE]
    Charlie is thinking like a Brazilian. If she is not getting serviced, she will get serviced elsewhere. Also she might think the gringo is no longer interested….

  • #220716

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=GreatBallsoFire]
    Charlie is thinking like a Brazilian. If she is not getting serviced, she will get serviced elsewhere. Also she might think the gringo is no longer interested….[/QUOTE]
    Think about it, 3 pages and NOT ONE woman has posted here. The problem is definitely with the ** MALE ** (OP not-putting out) in the relationship.There hasn’t been ONE comment from the gracious females we have here on this site. (sorry, I know that sounds like a kiss-a$$, but I have no other way to say it!) Their comments are always very level-headed. I can’t say that for all the guys!
    Like I said, 3-5x a day.. and if she still doesn’t trust you, then you can call the looney bin! She’s bein’ that way because she doesn’t want to lose the OP or take the chance that the OP hooks up with someone else. I don’t blame her. 3-5x/dayshould solve all problems. If it doesn’t, get some Viagra Tongue

  • #220717

    I haven’t been using this site for very long but from what I have seen there is a vast majority of men on here. It’s probably due to us all being enticed over seas by bronzed beauties, good weather and friendly people, but more for the beauties most likely…
    3-5x per day, Jesus are you part android, Robo-Cop or something?? :) Once and I’m happy, more then that and she complains I’m a sex addict!!! lol.
    Hey I agree, if the OP isnt providing the goodies and his lady is in need then he’s just got to man the hell up!!

  • #220718

    hoganti
    Member

    if it takes 3-5 times a day to satisfy her you aren’t doing it right

  • #220720

    doctorlili
    Member

    Spongebob, you’re cracking me up. If even Charlie wants to join your world because — apparently — his wife doesn’t come out of the closet often enough into which he put her Big%20smile… But yah, 3-4 times, this was the fun thing with my namorada, she is up for 3 times a day, but I also have seen how this can go downhill suddenly. And it may be when the insecurities vanish. This is why it often goes downhill after marriage. But there is also the issue with familiarity being a desire killer. It’s a difficult equilibrium to maintain. If you are following your own advice, Spongebob, and are doing it still, then you are doing something right, congratulations.

  • #220729

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=Squiddie] Spongebob, you’re cracking me up. If even Charlie wants to join your world because — apparently — his wife doesn’t come out of the closet often enough into which he put her¬†Big%20smile… But yah, 3-4 times, this was the fun thing with my namorada, she is up for 3 times a day, but I also have seen how this can go downhill suddenly. And it may be when the insecurities vanish. This is why it often goes downhill after marriage. But there is also the issue with familiarity being a desire killer. It’s a difficult equilibrium to maintain. If you are following your own advice, Spongebob, and are doing it still, then you are doing something right, congratulations.
    [/QUOTE]
    Yes and wait until the baby/babies arrive.. “Honey what about birth control?”

  • #220740

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=hpeak13]if it takes 3-5 times a day to satisfy her you aren’t doing it right[/QUOTE]
    Hogwash! Have you ever had one of those super turn-on days where you went all day long(maybe 6-7 times!!) Been there many times and loved it! 3-5x every day, even on a Monday is kind of difficult to do LOL. I’ve never seen someone complain about too much sex. Too little.. YES!
    Charlie:(That sex-addict nonsense is just so some cheating husband, like Tiger Woods, can try to deflect.. I sometimes criticise Brazilians for not wanting to assume responsibility, but this must be universal.)
    OP probably had a little tiff with his girlfriend. He’s mad and frustrated in this chaos. He’s not putting out or at least giving her other that or other forms of attention. And she’s reciprocating with a different form of denial (she doesn’t want him to leave the confines of the dwelling). The signs are clearly there. OP, don’t wait too long to do-the-deed. Buy her some flowers, talk to her, explain (don’t shout!) why you need to be able to go out. If everything that I’m saying here doesn’t work, wait till she goes to her relatives place and pack your stuff and disappear.
    GB – kids are so great… It’s fun making them and fun watching them grow up.
    spongebob2012-09-12 06:42:09

  • #220745

    hoganti
    Member

    Hogwash! Have you ever had one of those super turn-on days where you went all day long(maybe 6-7 times!!) Been there many times and loved it! 3-5x every day, even on a Monday is kind of difficult to do . I’ve never seen someone complain about too much sex. Too little.. YES!
    not hogwash. you said every day, not just one long day of passion every blue moon. any married man who says he has sex 3-5 times per day is a liar

  • #220749

    Anonymous

    OK, representing the level-headed female contingent (but speaking for myself):
    1- no comment because either the original post has to be a joke or a troll.
    2- if it is legitimate I agree with the idea that the OP needs to GTFO before she and her mother kill him. But it’s already been said.
    3- I have no idea what Brazilian women want, to me the vast majority are incomprehensible, with some really amazing exceptions (not unlike American women, i guess). I think I have a lot more in common with Brazilian men, personally.
    4- I seemed to have missed the part that said that the OP wasn’t putting out? I would think it’s more likely that the OP’s crazy female isn’t putting out. But anyway.
    3-5x per day, well, don’t you have other things to do?? I guess this is what life without children must be like.

  • #220752

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=3casas]l, don’t you have other things to do?? I guess this is what life without children must be like. [/QUOTE]
    He said that he doesn’t have a regular job. Might as well take advantage of the time! Yeah, he’s probably a troll. I don’t know why I never think of that… it’s probably he same ‘ole person like Svenn.
    Hpeak– stop being a Puritan from Tennessee. LOLTrue, women, in general, need less than men do. BUT most of them do it because they like making their partner happy, I guess.. I’m not a woman, just been with a lot of them. For guys, there’s nothing like showing a woman that she’s wantedby being so attracted to her that you “do multiples”. The flip-side.. physically and emotionally ignoring a woman; it has to be a terrible thing for her. And I’m quite sure that HAS to happen with a lot of couples nowadays, as evidenced by modern divorce rates. A large percentage of the divorces have to be attributed to some form of what we’re talking about.
    FYI, when I was younger, 3x a day was easy– in the morning, at lunch, and maybe a couple more times at night. (I watch very little TV). But no kids or any responsibilities so it was easy. Gosh, when I look back… I was a MAJOR horn dog, always on the prowl to get my “fix” anywhere I went. I would love to do multiples every day now, but with kids and work, it’s impossible. Not from lack of desire though…. Unfortunately, I have to go to work now!
    spongebob2012-09-12 08:38:57

  • #220767

    hoganti
    Member

    not a puritan, just realistic

  • #220802

    Steven
    Participant

    3X per day? Perhaps this is the reason that Spongebob is also known as Squarepants.

  • #220816

    cantak
    Member

    Didn’t know the topic grew this far. Well I got my license to travel to Joao Pessoa now. She cried more seeing that I bought a one way ticket. Then I have to start explaining. But the ticketing agent did a good job and told her sometimes it could be cheaper for me to buy return later. Prices of tickets aren’t stable blah blah.
    Fast forward to today. My friend that came to visit me in Rio from EU (we live somewhere between macae in buzios). Friend left for Joao Pessoa yesterday. Because we gonna be having some type of re-union but namorada hates the idea of men gathering in an hotspot alone and being gringoes.
    Today, she is all of a sudden cooperative. AHA ahah :) my clothes all ironed. Well while she did this a friend of hers came in and she said she is trying to prepare me for other ladies. Don’t know if I can spell it right “Eu esta arrumar ele bem para outra mulheres”. A lot of my stuffs are at home but she does believe I could just do away with material things and buy everything again. High level of insecurity.
    I do my best in bed ~ I dont think thats the problem we have enough time for all that and she is addicted to the time. With someone dominating as her. She gets it when she wants and how she wants. Later in the day her words are: Nao precurar outra mullheres, Voce nao acho outra mulhere igual eu. Voce pede eu voce chorar depois, igual ex-marido ele ligar todo dia agora chorando. Voce nao da valor agora.
    And later she was insisting ok use a condom when you go out. You must go with condoms. Is she insecure because we are quite young? Me and my friends are between 28 – 32. She is 26 with two kids. She Thinks I’m going out there to find a single girl without a crazy ex, and without kids. And sometimes why I chose her.
    virtalist20002012-09-12 19:13:15

  • #220830

    Gilmour
    Member

    Hmm.. got Svennwritten all over it, but for the sake of fantasy-role-playing -vs- real experices, let’s look the other way.
    You’re last paragraph…. I also heard the same thing, but not from the existing spouse. The reason was infidelity of a brother and a father, both costing them mega R$R$R$. I can see why she would say such a thing. She already has 2 (TWO!) kids after all. Any kid outside of the relationship would take away resources from the 2 kids she already has. Where is their father, I would like to know?????
    If you’re young, and just wanting to stick anything with a hole, stick to the “clubes”. But unless you’re paying ONLY for the massage (cash only), you’re inevitabely going to end up with a few like you have now.
    Hamster, are you happy? If this is a REAL case, just put out 3x a day and you have nothing to worry about. She’ll think you’re too drained for anyone else (and you probably will be!), and you an show your friends around town. A win for everyone!
    spongebob2012-09-12 21:31:09

  • #220837

    cantak
    Member

    Not Svenn you can check my previous post. We aren’t married and I dont plan getting married. Father of kids in another state say 9hours away by road. Dude came twice. One time I was around he was not allowed in the house. We didn’t’ see. We never seen physically. But she’s always a mess when he’s around. With all sort of fears of if he’s gonna harm her or run away with the kids.
    I didn’t think she will become this possessive and all. I just want a good steady relationship. Dont really want to spread seeds. But after-all some behavior could be hard coded into masculine genes. So still makes no sense to ask the cat to watch over the fish for you. Though I would enjoy taking a look at the fish or even maybe have a little bite.
    And after all a black gringo is hard to notice until he speaks bad Portuguese.

  • #220845

    Gilmour
    Member

    ^^ Looks complicated.. It’s probably better to try to remove yourself from the situation.
    At least where I’m at, due to so many guys being so lazy, there is an ABUNDANCE of women/girls. Last night I went to a restaurant; there was a new young 18-19’ish old waitress. I talked to her very little, just asking when she started working.. chit-chat kind of stuff. She kept glancing at me until the time I said tchau… ooof, my wife is very lucky that I’m not a serial cheater. This kind of thing happens quite frequently for me. I just chalk it up to the lazy guys because I don’t think I’m anything special.
    And this is where I think it comes back to the language. The more you know, the more you can interact with people and get closer to the culture. I think Gringos meet these Brazilian women online, and then they come to Brazil, and the “relationship” is filled with complications, especially if the woman is different than expected. Lack of knowledge of the language makes it even more complicated. Best thing to do is get some good books and start learning and practicing!
    But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    spongebob2012-09-13 07:48:00

  • #220862

    [QUOTE=spongebob]
    But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    [/QUOTE]
    Well no insult intended to the women of the world and I’m by no means very well travelled but are there really hot women everywhere?? From what I’ve seen of Brazilian girls/women there are more beautiful examples per head compared to other countries.
    So I guess it’s partly due to the fact that there’s more exotic beautiful women in Brazil, the bronze tanned skin and not just a white girl with a tan, maybe they’re more easy going then western women. For me personally I think if they have been raised to respect their husband/partner as being the man of the house therefore playing the submissive role in the relationship, it’s a good thing. That is one thing that western women have lost in their strive for equality. My brasileira is very caring and always wants to tend to my every need.
    Having never really been with western women sexually I can’t comment on how they are in the sack, but my friends haven’t given any fantastic reviews of their experiences. Most have been cold hearted bitches! Shocked

  • #220952

    cantak
    Member

    Yeah we met online etc. So she was used to me being that dude that couldn’t interact with other people. And to be honest with myself she is probably good for a friend for me and not for a permanent relationship – I have discussed this with her which she took for a no and said its either she is with me or not with me. Can’t stand being my friend without being my p***y.
    I’m actually a serial cheat and nothing will stop me from self-derailing eventually once in a while. While I maintain my serous relationship, will once in a while flirt and get some happy hour. I told her I”m not monotonous from the beginning. And therein lies are questions with “voce e meu?” then I reply “mitaji/meia” ( I mean to say half.
    This is my firs time in another city alone without her or a family of hers. Honestly better sleep yesterday. Met few girls already. Some with travel experience and more intellectually sound.
    But I’m hardwired to think she will be devastated if I leave. I think I’ve led her on so much. But that was when I taught we where cool. And she always puts questions that sort of have only one answer or the negative would make triste and cry. Though I have heard the power of relationship is in the hands of the one that loves less. I may just stick to the plan and go back home at the end of the trip. Till actually I can’t take it anymore and take a no return trip.
    So will sniff around for now and enjoy the trip — asked me to go with condoms already. I know there are better ones out there for me. No kids (I love kids when they trained), crazy ex-husband, more educated, less drama etc. But wait a minute can I know this and still be with her honestly? Maybe I love her then.

  • #220955

    Arkmuda
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+][QUOTE=spongebob]
    But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    [/QUOTE]
    Well no insult intended to the women of the world and I’m by no means very well travelled but are there really hot women everywhere??
    [/QUOTE]
    There are in South America. Colombia/Venezuela/Peru all have equal to or greater amounts of gorgeous women than Brazil. You can even find certain cities in Mexico that are like this, and they are all very feminine too. Hard to say which has more, personally I think Colombia takes the #1 spot for sexy women per capita.

  • #220959

    minhnoir
    Member

    [QUOTE=pyth0n]
    [QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    [QUOTE=spongebob]But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    [/QUOTE]Well no insult intended to the women of the world and I’m by no means very well travelled but are there really hot women everywhere??¬† [/QUOTE]There are in South America. Colombia/Venezuela/Peru all have equal to or greater amounts of gorgeous women than Brazil. You can even find certain cities in Mexico that are like this, and they are all very feminine too. Hard to say which has more, personally I think Colombia takes the #1 spot for sexy women per capita. [/QUOTE] Don’t forget Argentina.

  • #220961

    Marc Maserati
    Participant

    [QUOTE=Steven]3X per day? Perhaps this is the reason that Spongebob is also known as Squarepants.[/QUOTE]

    Spring is in the air! Go Spongebob go! You are an inspiration to us all!
    -Marc
  • #220966

    cantak
    Member

    Now someone is gonna say I abandoned my post. Angry~~~ the essense of the topic have been $)($*%)(&U$%#&*@$#$

  • #220969

    Marc Maserati
    Participant

    It seems the general rule for this forum is after page 3 it may not be your post anymore….Thumbs%20Up

    -Marc
  • #220972

    cantak
    Member

    Ta bom .. so nobody saw my last comment.

  • #220993

    Timmanaus
    Member

    No..right now we are more interested in discussing Spongebob’s daily routines….

  • #220999

    [QUOTE=mmaser]It seems the general rule for this forum is after page 3 it may not be your post anymore….Thumbs%20Up

    -Marc

    [/QUOTE]
    +1 but it seems to be pretty funny unless your the OP that is…. The OP needs to let his inner man whore out and explore the fruits that BR has to offer..Wink..but be nice about it.

  • #221000

    [QUOTE=OldMiller] [QUOTE=pyth0n]
    [QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    [QUOTE=spongebob]But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    [/QUOTE]Well no insult intended to the women of the world and I’m by no means very well travelled but are there really hot women everywhere?? [/QUOTE]There are in South America. Colombia/Venezuela/Peru all have equal to or greater amounts of gorgeous women than Brazil. You can even find certain cities in Mexico that are like this, and they are all very feminine too. Hard to say which has more, personally I think Colombia takes the #1 spot for sexy women per capita. [/QUOTE] Don’t forget Argentina. [/QUOTE]
    I’d agree with you there. The rest of SA has alot to offer and I think some very beautiful women, unless you take into account Northern girls from Brasil that have some Tupi Guarani mixed in and then they look pretty similar to the beauties from other S.American countries…not too keen on Argentinians though, they look a little too much like Europeans with tans to me.

  • #221045

    cantak
    Member

    @frank what did you mean by accident? Can you elaborate?

  • #221090

    Gilmour
    Member

    You guys sound SINGLE… I can’t man-whore anywhere, especially in my own backyard. I don’t know how I have possibly resisted all of the “advances” until now. I just hope that when I’m on my deathbed, I don’t say “I should have DONE them ALL!” But what I have with the wife isn’t bad. We have the occasional “I say I don’t like that” she does it until I blow up. Next day I act like nothing ever happened and back full circle again to something fairly happy. A guy stopped us in the street today.. I have seen this guy many times before, but never chatted with him. He stopped us to say that we look like the perfect family and to pray every night to keep the “olho gordo” (envy eye) away. This guy musta been trying to jinx me or somethin.
    spongebob2012-09-15 19:31:28

  • #221091

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=mmaser]
    [QUOTE=Steven]3X per day?  Perhaps this is the reason that Spongebob is also known as Squarepants.[/QUOTE]

     
    Spring is in the air!  Go Spongebob go!  You are an inspiration to us all!
     
    -Marc

    [/QUOTE]
    no… I used to do that, and I still CAN no problem (being 35 now and not 22!) The only problem is the availabilitydue to kids, work, and all that stuff.

  • #221092

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=virtalist2000] Yeah we met online etc. So she was used to me being that dude that couldn’t interact with other people. And to be honest with myself she is probably good for a friend for me and not for a permanent relationship – I have discussed this with her which she took for a no and said its either she is with me or not with me. Can’t stand being my friend without being my p***y.¬†I’m actually a serial cheat and nothing will stop me from self-derailing eventually once in a while. While I maintain my serous relationship, will once in a while flirt and get some happy hour. I told her I”m not monotonous from the beginning.¬† And therein lies are questions with “voce e meu?” then I reply “mitaji/meia” ( I mean to say half.This is my firs time in another city alone without her or a family of hers. Honestly better sleep yesterday. Met few girls already. Some with travel experience and more intellectually sound.But I’m hardwired to think she will be devastated if I leave. I think I’ve led her on so much. But that was when I taught we where cool. And she always puts questions that sort of have only one answer or the negative would make triste and cry. Though I have heard the power of relationship is in the hands of the one that loves less. I may just stick to the plan and go back home at the end of the trip. Till actually I can’t take it anymore and take a no return trip.So will sniff around for now and enjoy the trip — asked me to go with condoms already. I know there are better ones out there for me. No kids (I love kids when they trained), crazy ex-husband, more educated, less drama etc. But wait a minute can I know this and still be with her honestly? Maybe I love her then.
    [/QUOTE]
    I had a feeling it was online. You’re lucky because what you have indicated here, your trip has departure date. You will leave Brazil and go back to where you are from and forget this woman. Based on what you said, she sounds crazy, but I doubt your Portuguese is 100% native-level either. So this is likely where the confusion comes from. But the thing about “metade” (half) would probably make her this way (crazy! and maybe the ex-husband was giving her a hard time too). You can’t tell any woman this kind of thing, whether they are Brazilian, American, Colombian, Portuguese, Mexican.. whatever nationality.
    *USUALLY* at the end of the day, women are women anywhere you go. When I think about all of my girlfriends and flings from all over the world, I realize that there was no difference at all.. just the language. About the serial cheater thing– if you are young, no big deal. I probably set a few records myself. But if you’re in a serious relationship or married, you have to be careful, or they may find your body parts in a suitcase somewhere. Anybody who watches the news here will know what I’m talking about.spongebob2012-09-15 19:45:55

  • #221101

    [QUOTE=spongebob]You guys sound SINGLE… I can’t man-whore anywhere, especially in my own backyard. I don’t know how I have possibly resisted all of the “advances” until now. I just hope that when I’m on my deathbed, I don’t say “I should have DONE them ALL!” But what I have with the wife isn’t bad. We have the occasional “I say I don’t like that” she does it until I blow up. Next day I act like nothing ever happened and back full circle again to something fairly happy. A guy stopped us in the street today.. I have seen this guy many times before, but never chatted with him. He stopped us to say that we look like the perfect family and to pray every night to keep the “olho gordo” (envy eye) away. This guy musta been trying to jinx me or somethin.
    [/QUOTE]
    Spongey old boy, I was advising the OP to let out his inner whore not you, though by the sounds of things you’ve probably ticked that box off in your earlier years..Wink..
    lol “I should have DONE them ALL!” lovely…
    I doubt there’s many single guys on here as we know it’s hard to resist the sounds that those Brasilian sirensmake..

  • #221109

    cantak
    Member

    I’m still on my trip just messing around. She isn’t has bad as the few girls I’ve met. I’m still out there though just my 3rd/4th day. Yeah the ex-husband thing scares me more than her. I should know when to really run. I hope my instinct don’t fail me then when I really need it.. My 3rd trip to Brazil in a stretch of 10months. Those tickets are killing I better just chill and stick around.
    One of the reasons I can’t really get married is I can’t take the oath of monopoly. I’m cool and all that but once in a while I gotta do what I gotta do. Though with her I have less urge to cheat from being unsatisfied in bed. Sexually everything is fine. Only the stress department of ‘briga tudo dia’. I see the news. Thats my action movie I get my dose in the morning at night.
    The last two friendly Brazilian dudes that I knew actually wanted to f*ck her. Seeing me as just a stupid gringo that pays the bill or something very disrespectful. Thats another topic. She’d always told me its wrong to think a Brazilian guy can be her friend without wanting extra. Maybe I know other species of Brazilians. Instead of her telling one of the dude to stop coming around. I had to do it for her.
    I taught it would be easier for her to just say “Meu marido não gosta..” Dude usually come and asked of me first but he only asked for other purpose. To know if she is alone at home. Well she met him first and I taught they where friends based on the fact they once worked together. Sometimes I will be upstairs. But the last time she called me I came to the living room to talk with dude for a little and back upstairs reading. I can’t have an intelligent conversation with this dude semi-dumb-retarded; so nothing to say to him. But this very day he was telling her crazy things while she called me and I ignored the calls thinking she wants me to come have some dumb conversation with retard of ceveja. Not knowing retard got games. Was telling her “Eu qeuro voce, gostou de voce, qeuro beija voce … “
    Cut story short… she was so angry I didn’t answer and allowed him say all those things. That isn’t my fault as far as I’m concerned. Well I had to pick up my the phone and told dude not to call her anymore and that I didn’t wanna see him at my house anymore. Did I have to do this? But its what she wanted. I taught a woman should be able to sense this and cancel such proposals on her own. Well dude said he was joking and apologized couple of times but with the Brazilian news this type of confrontation sometimes do go left.

  • #221111

    doctorlili
    Member

    You definitely have to do this. Either you HAVE a hot Brazilian or you don’t. If you don’t defend her as yours, she’ll take this as a powerful signal that you don’t love her, and that you are an ass. There is no way a hot girl can be “friends” with any dude, and its your job to intervene decisively. Your metade attitude is also crap. I think you should quit and not have serious relationship if you are not up for it.

  • #221112

    cantak
    Member

    Thanks “Squiddie”. Straight up point. I think the metade attitude is whats causing most problems. I will start acting jealous and mean :D Angryand a dictator like she wants. f**k the liberty way. She also gets angry when I just approve her to go out with friends. Then she makes a fight on how easy I said yes you can go Without conditions or making it difficult for her etc. (Then declines going out she never even did without me). But I think its based on the fact that she thinks If she goes out like that I would like to use that as an excuse to go out at nights alone without her. I have warned her several time not to put up test questions like that. She will always be disappointed at my reflex response.
    I need start acting macho!!! I think in the background she is comparing me to her ex-hsuband that wouldn’t let her go out in revealing clothes or go out alone. But for me I like to see her like that hot and sexy:D. And have other men turn heads too. Thats the proof I’m actually with an hot girl when other men look.
    And I guess she just puts up fights, just to heat up the house. I guess she hates having it too cool and tranquil.

  • #221117

    Ron
    Participant

    As the old saying goes. “Show me a beautiful woman and I will show you a man who is sick of her sh*t.”

  • #221118

    doctorlili
    Member

    [QUOTE=virtalist2000]I think the metade attitude is whats causing most problems. I will start acting jealous and mean :D Angryand a dictator like she wants.f**k the liberty way. She also gets angry when I just approve her to go out with friends. Then she makes a fight on how easy I said yes you can go Without conditions or making it difficult for her etc. (Then declines going out she never even did without me). But I think its based on the fact that she thinks If she goes out like that I would like to use that as an excuse to go out at nights alone without her. I have warned her several time not to put up test questions like that.She will always be disappointed at my reflex response.[/QUOTE]
    You can’t make impossible demands. You can not tell the earth to stop its gravitation, in the same way you can’t tell a woman to stop testing her man, and certainly not a Brazilian. It’s part and parcel with the fun. You have to change your attitude and re-wire your reflex response. If you do, I think you will have a lot more fun. You can play it consciously for even better enjoyment. It’s like playing a musical instrument, it needs to be programmed into your cerebellum.
    I really think this attitude mismatch is why eventually so many gringo’s f**k up their relationship with their hot Brazilian flame. I really think you can’t blame it entirely on the Brazilian women when they end up becoming unbearable or cheating or leaving their gringo. It’s not because they are all putas, it is because they are frustrated. Many gringos who think they are nice guys just don’t understand, they think they “respect” her by leaving her all the freedoms that women of European descent say they want (without knowing that they actually don’t want it really, but that’s another matter.) Just letting her do what she says she wants and not taking control is like depriving your woman of your touch. It’s a serious violation of the implicit contract.
    Research shows that women get turned on by feeling desired. And every sexual human being wants to be turned on. By you not desiring her and claiming her and taking control of her, and defending her, even against what she seems to claim (freedom), you let her down. I think for us men it would be the equivalent of our woman letting herself go, not making herself pretty for us any more. This leads directly to frustration and sexual disconnect. It leads all the way to despising and hate cheating and divorce.
    I am not saying that this particular lady is your best shot and you should hold on to her. Her continuing fooling around with her ex is a great problem (something you must use to learn to take control as well.) What I am saying is that as long as you are with her, you should learn to speak this language of love.
    [QUOTE=virtalist2000]I need start acting macho!!! I think in the background she is comparing me to her ex-hsuband that wouldn’t let her go out in revealing clothes or go out alone. But for me I like to see her like that hot and sexy:D. And have other men turn heads too. Thats the proof I’m actually with an hot girl when other men look.
    And I guess she just puts up fights, just to heat up the house. I guess she hates having it too cool and tranquil.[/QUOTE]
    1. “Macho” simply means manly. Just like we (or at least I) want a feminine woman, the other side of that coin is that such a woman wants a masculine man … what exactly that means is a different question. Responsibility, success, protectiveness, gentleness all have a place there. But also firmness, predictable (and therefore safe) about enforcing boundaries, and insatiable desire for her and making good use of her, all that. You don’t need to be a jerk to fulfill her.
    2. Exactly, you like to see her hot and sexy, but then you need to protect and defend her. You can’t let her out alone like that. And when you are around, you always need to be around her, let no dude touch her, not even shake her hand, and when they stare, you step into their line of sight. If she sees how aware you are of the situation, and how you take control of it, and how you protect her like a treasure, then she will feel safe with you, hotly desired, and fulfilled.
    3. The fights can be great fun indeed. They can heat the house and you can use them to get physical. I had this situation where my namorada was making me jealous about some dude, telling me she was conversing with this “friend”. And later I found out she actually wasn’t. He was trying to get to her, but she did not reply. But she anyway told me he was her friend and they chatted, and he noticed about how she feels. I knew already I had to step in here, but she pushed it further, now denying that it was a big deal, like putting the European craptidude up about she has her freedom and can do as she chooses. And she got more and more agitated. She is so transparent, so she also complained how I am never jealous and how I wouldn’t defend her. She turned away from me physically. I wanted this nonsense to stop and just have cozy gentle cuddling instead. But not so fast. She went on and on, talking herself into I calling her a whore, upset, and I responded that I don’t know. Eventually I took her roughly, turned her over put my full weight on top of her, held her arms and put my hand over her mouth, and said calm but forcefully, that this nonsense has to stop, explained the situation and she needs to put this thought out of her mind. She calmed down, and melted under me. When she was calm, I rolled over next to her, caressing her gently. She started crying, she is no whore. I said, I know, I didn’t say you were.
    The next day in the next fight she counted my roughness that night against me, but that too was sh*t-test. Later she told me this was exactly how I had to act and she wants to experience more of that. I told you she was my teacher. It is so funny, she is so aware of this stuff, she can play her hysterical part in full gusto, and later she criticizes my performance of managing the situation and tells me what I did right and where I need to step it up more next time.
    So, there you go. Step it up.
    But, you really need to evaluate your situation with her, which is what you are currently doing. You need to ask: is she your really great woman? Is she your best bet. Is she good enough on all levels that you need? Don’t expect her stopping the sh*t tests, and don’t expect her to become an anemic woman who leaves you alone. You can’t have a hot woman and one who leaves you alone. Either you want a hot relationship or not. Figure that out. Then decide if you exit that relationship or if you go all the way in with no turning back. When you go all the way in, clean up the house, take this issue with her ex under control. Claim her entirely and set boundaries around. Follow Spongebob’s advice, put out all the time. Make sure you get what you need so you do not have to stray and do this metade crap. Think ahead though, 20 years down the road. Is she still your best bet? Decide now and let her go now if you think not. If she is it, then focus.
    Good luck, and have fun and enjoy, I think once you understand how the clock ticks, and you get with the groove, it is so much fun.
    Squiddie2012-09-16 13:41:30

  • #221123

    Arkmuda
    Member

    [QUOTE=frank4000][QUOTE=pyth0n][QUOTE=+Charlie+][QUOTE=spongebob]
    But I’m curious, why Brazilian women? Why do gringos like Brazilian women? After all, there are hot women everywhere.
    [/QUOTE]
    Well no insult intended to the women of the world and I’m by no means very well travelled but are there really hot women everywhere??
    [/QUOTE]
    There are in South America. Colombia/Venezuela/Peru all have equal to or greater amounts of gorgeous women than Brazil. You can even find certain cities in Mexico that are like this, and they are all very feminine too. Hard to say which has more, personally I think Colombia takes the #1 spot for sexy women per capita.
    [/QUOTE]
    But colombians in general are very tricky man. Very simpatica but very “tricksy” lol. Peruvians I agree with but never meet one with enough backside for me. Venezuelanas we have them by the truck load where I am from. I wish we could send them back. Their are fine, but if you are familiar with “Vene society” life there is different man not worth the hassle.
    [/QUOTE]
    Nah, a Latina is a Latina.
    OP – Keep it simple dude. Women were meant to have children and take care of families. Men were meant to take care of women. If you don’t want a family with her, then skip her and keep searching until you find one you want a family with.
    P.S – If you really must talk about her feelings, make sure it’s about an orgasm!

  • #221130

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=virtalist2000]
    Cut story short… she was so angry I didn’t answer and allowed him say all those things. That isn’t my fault as far as I’m concerned. Well I had to pick up my the phone and told dude not to call her anymore and that I didn’t wanna see him at my house anymore. Did I have to do this? But its what she wanted. I taught a woman should be able to sense this and cancel such proposals on her own. Well dude said he was joking and apologized couple of times but with the Brazilian news this type of confrontation sometimes do go left.
    [/QUOTE]
    You’re there for 3-4 days and your arguing? Either you talk all-the-time on the internet, or you guys just don’t get along… This sounds crazy actually, you don’t like her, but you don’t want other guys to see her? How do you know that she’s not getting “3x a day” from someone else? Ok.. 3x is a lot, but how about even once in a while?
    If you’re single, you don’t need the drama. There’re much less emotionally draining alternatives (the paid variety, but I imagine it’s pretty easy to have some short free flings if they feel comfortable with you).
    spongebob2012-09-16 16:27:16

  • #221131

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    Spongey old boy, I was advising the OP to let out his inner whore not you, though by the sounds of things you’ve probably ticked that box off in your earlier years..Wink..
    lol “I should have DONE them ALL!” lovely…
    I doubt there’s many single guys on here as we know it’s hard to resist the sounds that those Brasilian sirensmake..
    [/QUOTE]
    I’m actually considering divorcing my wife, but for “long term planning” and not over disagreements, not getting along, not getting sex, etc.. She said that she was married in the Church, so that’s all she cares about.
    Maybe I’ll have to keep some Motel receipts and Nota Fiscais from hookers to make sure that nobody can say that it’s a fraudulent divorce. Sven, is that good enough proof? If so, I guess I’ll have to make the sacrifice Big%20smileSven, and before your legal mind starts swirling around, this has nothing to do with trying to scheme someone (or employees) out of money!

  • #221136

    [QUOTE=virtalist2000]I’m still on my trip just messing around. She isn’t has bad as the few girls I’ve met. I’m still out there though just my 3rd/4th day. Yeah the ex-husband thing scares me more than her. I should know when to really run. I hope my instinct don’t fail me then when I really need it.. My 3rd trip to Brazil in a stretch of 10months. Those tickets are killing I better just chill and stick around.
    One of the reasons I can’t really get married is I can’t take the oath of monopoly. I’m cool and all that but once in a while I gotta do what I gotta do. Though with her I have less urge to cheat from being unsatisfied in bed. Sexually everything is fine. Only the stress department of ‘briga tudo dia’. I see the news. Thats my action movie I get my dose in the morning at night.
    The last two friendly Brazilian dudes that I knew actually wanted to f*ck her. Seeing me as just a stupid gringo that pays the bill or something very disrespectful. Thats another topic. She’d always told me its wrong to think a Brazilian guy can be her friend without wanting extra. Maybe I know other species of Brazilians. Instead of her telling one of the dude to stop coming around. I had to do it for her.
    I taught it would be easier for her to just say “Meu marido não gosta..” Dude usually come and asked of me first but he only asked for other purpose. To know if she is alone at home. Well she met him first and I taught they where friends based on the fact they once worked together. Sometimes I will be upstairs. But the last time she called me I came to the living room to talk with dude for a little and back upstairs reading. I can’t have an intelligent conversation with this dude semi-dumb-retarded; so nothing to say to him. But this very day he was telling her crazy things while she called me and I ignored the calls thinking she wants me to come have some dumb conversation with retard of ceveja. Not knowing retard got games. Was telling her “Eu qeuro voce, gostou de voce, qeuro beija voce … “
    Cut story short… she was so angry I didn’t answer and allowed him say all those things. That isn’t my fault as far as I’m concerned. Well I had to pick up my the phone and told dude not to call her anymore and that I didn’t wanna see him at my house anymore. Did I have to do this? But its what she wanted. I taught a woman should be able to sense this and cancel such proposals on her own. Well dude said he was joking and apologized couple of times but with the Brazilian news this type of confrontation sometimes do go left.
    [/QUOTE]
    Well, I think by her even having this guy in the house she is disrespecting you. Your correct about 99% of Brasilian straight guys, they’re all like dogs that are on heat..
    Squiddie has blossomed into a Yoda of sound advice, but my experiences with my Brasileira have been contrary to everybodys advice. Firstly my wife is tough, and scary when she’s angry, she’s been shot and stabbed a few times in failed muggings etc so can defend herself very well indeed. If some Brasilian (or any other) guy was sniffing around her, she would send him crying back to mummy in a heartbeat.
    But without a doubt she would never have a straight guy in the house without me being there nearby, she knows I wouldn’t like it so she wouldn’t do it, it would be disrespectful.
    There’s never any sh*t tests to see if I get jealous or anything like that, plus she knows it wouldn’t work as I don’t really get jealous, she has permission to go out wearing whatever she wants with whoever she wants (females or maybe gay guys are ok), I trust her absolutely…..but she never wants to go out anywhere socially without me anyway.
    On the topic of defending her honour, we’ve talked about it and honestly guys, we get these hot girls because we’re not like the Brasilian meat heads that start a fight because a guy looks at his girlfriend…. we’re confident, cool and calculated. My mulher wouldn’t want me to get into trouble with the police etc because of a fight with some bone head that was hassleing her, I don’t know much about other Brasilian girls but I think we gringoes are appreciated by Brasilian women because of our intelligence and that we are not a bunch of hot heads.
    I personally think if virtalist2000 or any other guy is with a Brasilian girl who plays these games, trys to make him jealous and wants him to fight over her, then that guy should realise his worth and get out of there. Also, yes we are with Brasilian women and they are feisty, but if your fighting every day – get out of there….it’s not a peaceful loving happy environment…maybe a fight once a week is ok, so long as the guy wins. I rarely fight with my esposa, and then afterwards she always comes to appologise to me.
    Honestly I think 2 reasons why mine is so well disciplined is due to a) having a super strict alcoholic father and coming from a traditional Northern background, and b) having had bad experiences with boyfriends in her youth.
    Maybe I’m just a pompous British guy who knows, but i think realising that you are a “good catch”, and having confidence that she would have a difficult time finding a better partner than you….is an attractive quality I think. Unless your a homeless bum with no proper unbringing of course..Smile.
    OP, there will be a hot sexy Brasilian girl out there for you that will like you for who you are without the jealousy tricks and constant tantrums, finding one that is confident in herself is probably a good start…and don’t make fights, make love. Hug
    Move on, she has probably already f**ked that work colleague in the past anyway….Brasil is a big place, happy hunting…
    +Charlie+2012-09-16 18:00:47

  • #221137

    [QUOTE=spongebob][QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    Spongey old boy, I was advising the OP to let out his inner whore not you, though by the sounds of things you’ve probably ticked that box off in your earlier years..Wink..
    lol “I should have DONE them ALL!” lovely…
    I doubt there’s many single guys on here as we know it’s hard to resist the sounds that those Brasilian sirensmake..
    [/QUOTE]
    I’m actually considering divorcing my wife, but for “long term planning” and not over disagreements, not getting along, not getting sex, etc.. She said that she was married in the Church, so that’s all she cares about.
    Maybe I’ll have to keep some Motel receipts and Nota Fiscais from hookers to make sure that nobody can say that it’s a fraudulent divorce. Sven, is that good enough proof? If so, I guess I’ll have to make the sacrifice Big%20smileSven, and before your legal mind starts swirling around, this has nothing to do with trying to scheme someone (or employees) out of money!
    [/QUOTE]
    mmmm, it’s sad for the kids but nice what it can be done maturely and and mutually, but in a relationship with a Brasileira I’d have trouble believing that a divorce can be so calm and mature.
    what….motel receipts…she’s been cheating on you?????? wow, if thats true your a calculated man for sticking it this far, a regular Brasilian meat head would have chopped her into pieces and fed her to the pigs by now..
    sorry virtalist2000 for talking off topic.

  • #221138

    kevin owen
    Participant

    [QUOTE=virtalist2000]
    One of the reasons I can’t really get married is I can’t take the oath of monopoly..
    [/QUOTE]
    What is that ? You promise not to pass go and not to collect £200.

  • #221140

    [QUOTE=kevbo][QUOTE=virtalist2000]
    One of the reasons I can’t really get married is I can’t take the oath of monopoly..
    [/QUOTE]
    What is that ? You promise not to pass go and not to collect £200.[/QUOTE]
    LOL….Thumbs%20Up..

  • #221143

    cantak
    Member

    Thanks Squidie and Charlie. I’ll put some lessons to practice when I return home. I was just afraid of her insecurities. And work more on my nonchalant attitude. I trust her. I just wonder why she can’t trust me as much as I do for her.

  • #221148

    doctorlili
    Member

    Charlie, thanks for your insight. It’s good to know that the jealousy games may not have to be. And yes, fighting every day gets old. I think when caught in such relationships we need to use the opportunity to learn to manage it. But if it’s not possible despite getting better at it, then it needs to end.
    Spongebob, are you serious about this? What are you lacking now? What is the plan you have after D-day?
    I am currently thinking, even if I could work something out with my namorada, like the two of us really jiving, and me having learned the ropes and enjoying these games, would I not at one point still want to fool around? I don’t.
    But what is the alternative? Be an eternal bachelor? That gets old too, especially when we see our own biological clock ticking at some point.
    So, I am looking for the right one. Spongebob, you think you have not landed the right one? Or you just still want to do them all? Seriously?

  • #221152

    doctorlili
    Member

    Oh, and trying to divorce by flashing hooker receipts is probably a very bad idea. It gets you divorced but also a knife in the back and balls cut off, and very likely won’t be good on your assets. It’s a dicey act this divorce thing.
    Also, Spongebob, if your want to do it because — as you say — you don’t have the fun 3-5 times a day any more “because of the kids” — you may want to check in what else is wrong. Young kids should still leave you nights of abandon. And they take naps. And with the right training they should soon sleep in the morning.
    Or is your wife the sort that practices fusion with her kids and neglects you? May be has them in your marital quarters, in your bed? I heard of bad customs in Brazil. But not all is lost if that is happening to you. Is it?

  • #221153

    Caio Andretta
    Participant

    [QUOTE=Squiddie] Oh, and trying to divorce by flashing hooker receipts is probably a very bad idea. It gets you divorced but also a knife in the back and balls cut off, and very likely won’t be good on your assets. It’s a dicey act this divorce thing.[/QUOTE]
    Have you ever heard of a hooker writing out a receipt?

  • #221165

    Gilmour
    Member

    Virtualist, just a quick intervalo in your thread: Charlie, Squiddie, Frank, et al– naahh.. The way I’m seeing it is that civil marriage is just a piece of paper. It has served its purpose. Now it’s restricting my options in other areas (retirement planning). We were discussing it last night. We will try to find a different way around it, but the laws here are pretty hard to get around. It’s just a piece of paper.
    Crazy thing is (I need to start using a different moniker on here!!).. me going to a whorehouse wouldn’t affect our relationship one bit. Surpringly.. this has to be a Brasileira-thing.
    By the way.. to the doubter of the receipts, if you pay with a credit card, you get a receipt. But nothing is discriminated like Completo… R$ 100, Cerveja…. R$ 20. I’ve never seen a Cupom Fiscal, but you never know with those classy places in BH, Rio, or SP.

  • #221166

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=Squiddie]Oh, and trying to divorce by flashing hooker receipts is probably a very bad idea. It gets you divorced but also a knife in the back and balls cut off, and very likely won’t be good on your assets. It’s a dicey act this divorce thing.
    Also, Spongebob, if your want to do it because — as you say — you don’t have the fun 3-5 times a day any more “because of the kids” — you may want to check in what else is wrong. Young kids should still leave you nights of abandon. And they take naps. And with the right training they should soon sleep in the morning.
    Or is your wife the sort that practices fusion with her kids and neglects you? May be has them in your marital quarters, in your bed? I heard of bad customs in Brazil. But not all is lost if that is happening to you. Is it?
    [/QUOTE]
    Imagine this: Perfectly happy married couple gets divorced on paper, but nothing really changes. This is what I’m talking about. (Sven, feel free to comment on legal challenges to this!) I’m happy and I don’t have a lot to complain about.. maybe just the timedoesn’t permit 3-5x a day!

  • #221167

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+]
    On the topic of defending her honour, we’ve talked about it and honestly guys, we get these hot girls because we’re not like the Brasilian meat heads that start a fight because a guy looks at his girlfriend…. we’re confident, cool and calculated. My mulher wouldn’t want me to get into trouble with the police etc because of a fight with some bone head that was hassleing her, I don’t know much about other Brasilian girls but I think we gringoes are appreciated by Brasilian women because of our intelligence and that we are not a bunch of hot heads.
    [/quote]
    This why I asked the ages of the “participants”. Virtualist comes here and mentions some information, but gives no real concrete information. How can we know if he’s dealing with a gringo-hungry hootchie mama who has slept with half the city ORsome family girl that has had 1 boyfriend in her life and got pregnant by him with her current kids. To me, there’s a big difference there. But the details have been left out.
    The ex-husband/ex-boyfriend issue exists everywhere. Sometimes they become best friends, with [maybe] some far-and-wide benefits. In the USofA, I was once b******* a girl when the ex opened the door. The guy really had no problem with it. And ONCE, when I was young, I had a “seperated” (never believe that word!!) girl invite me to her place to try to try to get something started with her husband and me. It wasn’tpretty… age plays a BIG factor, I think, but you get meat heads everywhere, Charlie.
    ^^ Ahh.. the adventures! However, I think it’s more “productive” to be in a relationship or married. I’m pretty sure that there’s some sort of unsmellable pheramone that women give off. During the times I didn’t have one, I was like a crack addict going through withdrawal.

  • #221187

    doctorlili
    Member

    Divorce on paper is a perfectly cool thing. It was something I had done even if I was going to reconcile with my first wife. Just because pre-nuptial after the fact is not something that can be done really.
    But Spongebob, may be it’s for a different thread, what retirement planning would require a divorce if it wasn’t for the purpose of introducing asset separation from the missed pre-nup? And doesn’t that essentially mean disenfranchising the wife from those retirement assets? I guess you have something else in mind. But what? What’s so bad about just owning property in your real name, or in the name of your company?

  • #221188

    Marc Maserati
    Participant

    Avoiding American taxation? As long as everything is in your “divorced” wifes name, the US cannot lay claim to it ever unless they invade Brazil.

    -Marc
  • #221191

    [QUOTE=mmaser]… the US cannot lay claim to it ever unless they invade Brazil.[/QUOTE]
    PLEASE don’t go giving Tio Sam any ideas!!!

  • #221193

    Marc Maserati
    Participant

    No worries! If the US sent troops ~85% would have to send child support after the conflict was over. More than one line of defence here. Wink

    -Marc

  • #221196

    cantak
    Member

    I spoke about the age ealier 26/27. Yeah claims the dude is her only boy friend that she had kids with. she seem to be a good girl only that my past life haunts too. I dont really believe stories. But her stories come with a lot of evidences but i’m just me I’ve been with lot of really dodgy girls.

  • #221197

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=Squiddie]Divorce on paper is a perfectly cool thing. It was something I had done even if I was going to reconcile with my first wife. Just because pre-nuptial after the fact is not something that can be done really.
    But Spongebob, may be it’s for a different thread, what retirement planning would require a divorce if it wasn’t for the purpose of introducing asset separation from the missed pre-nup? And doesn’t that essentially mean disenfranchising the wife from those retirement assets? I guess you have something else in mind. But what? What’s so bad about just owning property in your real name, or in the name of your company?
    [/QUOTE]
    We are 2 responsible adults that get along well. What’s hers is hers and mine is mine. I explained on a different thread to see if Svenknows any better ways.
    MMaser– nope, doesn’t have anything to do with US taxes. (I don’t make enough to have to pay taxes there). Although soon I will cease to be an American. Then I can breath a sigh of relief because their crazy rules won’t apply to me anymore, just crazy Brazilian rules will apply.
    Frank9000– yep, I’ve had some adventures. I wouldn’t trade them for the world either. I should probably start writing them down before I start forgetting everything.

  • #221214

    doctorlili
    Member

    [QUOTE=mmaser]No worries! If the US sent troops ~85% would have to send child support after the conflict was over. More than one line of defence here. Wink[/QUOTE]
    LOLLOLLOLClap

  • #221232

    [QUOTE=mmaser]

    No worries! If the US sent troops ~85% would have to send child support after the conflict was over. More than one line of defence here. Wink

    -Marc [/QUOTE]
    hahahaaha…I doubt it, they don’t send child support for all of the kids they left in Vietnam and Asia!! Ermm….

  • #221233

    [QUOTE=spongebob]
    The ex-husband/ex-boyfriend issue exists everywhere. Sometimes they become best friends, with [maybe] some far-and-wide benefits. In the USofA, I was once b******* a girl when the ex opened the door. The guy really had no problem with it. And ONCE, when I was young, I had a “seperated” (never believe that word!!) girl invite me to her place to try to try to get something started with her husband and me. It wasn’tpretty… age plays a BIG factor, I think, but you get meat heads everywhere, Charlie.
    [/QUOTE]
    I’m 34.
    I counted the stars and I get the gist of what your saying but I still have no idea what that word is 3 lines down..Ermm..
    Regarding meat heads, well maybe it’s just the British being refined but we don’t really have meatheads over here, perhaps in a very run down area. I know in larger countries there are vast areas of wilderness with very remote towns/villiages so maybe they’re possible spawning areas for meat heads but we just don’t have the land for it..and we don’t play American football here….(oh here it comes..LOL.Ouch.Ouch.Ouch)
    Nope, it’s probably just the cool British refined temperament…..what ho old chap, down with the Nazis…Tongue..
    You do get quite alot of immigrant meat heads here who have come from eastern europe, mostly Polish or some country previously behind the Iron curtain.
    +Charlie+2012-09-17 17:47:21

  • #221235

    [QUOTE=Gringo.Floripa][QUOTE=mmaser]… the US cannot lay claim to it ever unless they invade Brazil.[/QUOTE]
    PLEASE don’t go giving Tio Sam any ideas!!!
    [/QUOTE]
    They would go for Venezuela first, more oil…

  • #221282

    Gilmour
    Member

    If the US invaded Brazil, I doubt the OP would DO anything. He’s not American.. I would hide underground. They have firepower like none other. +Charlie+it’s not really how much of what a country has, it’s “under what beneficial terms” they look at. If they haven’t invaded Venezuela already, it’s because the OIL companies and Chavez already worked out some sort of deal.

  • #221341

    Liliqtozin
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+][QUOTE=mmaser]No worries! If the US sent troops ~85% would have to send child support after the conflict was over. More than one line of defence here. Wink

    -Marc[/QUOTE]hahahaaha…I doubt it, they don’t send child support for all of the kids they left in Vietnam and Asia!! Ermm….[/QUOTE]

    Only Brit’s think they have to send child support to a hooker.

  • #221357

    they can’t demand child support if the US wont release details of the fathers…
    Undoubtedly some hookers, maybe even a ladyboy or two and most likely a handful of rape victims….but lets just assume whatever it takes to get it under the carpet eh…Wink.
    And Brits wouldn’t have left their seed in the first place.
    +Charlie+2012-09-18 14:52:02

  • #221505

    chrish
    Member

    [QUOTE=+Charlie+] Regarding meat heads, well maybe it’s just the British being refined but we don’t really have meatheads over here, perhaps in a very run down area.
    [/QUOTE]
    you never attended a premiership match I see.

  • #221527

    [QUOTE=marcobjj] [QUOTE=+Charlie+] Regarding meat heads, well maybe it’s just the British being refined but we don’t really have meatheads over here, perhaps in a very run down area.
    [/QUOTE]
    you never attended a premiership match I see.[/QUOTE]
    HA!!!! I was waiting for someone to bring that up….I think generally, hooliganism is vertually non existant over here now…..it’s mostly friendly people and fathers with their kids that go to matches nowadays…..I live beside a premier league stadium and that’s all I see when there’s a match on…
    It’s far from the kinds of matches of 20+ years ago, or the type that goes on regularly in Poland and Ukraine…..loads of Nazis and skinheads!! says Ross Kemp btw.. Thumbs%20Down..
    Never been keen on football myself anyway..we’re generally a very cordial bunch of gentlemen.. Hug..

  • #23414

    frangosete
    Member

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