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  • #272846

    zehh
    Member

    .lightbulb2015-02-22 17:21:27

  • #272848

    ffm
    Member

    Dis gun be gud!

    The Abbot2015-02-06 13:43:12

  • #272857

    agri2001
    Participant

    Wow! These tales of woe are really getting interesting

  • #272858

    gengibre
    Member

    I guess this serves as a real warning about meeting people online and then getting married a few months later. You can’t possibly know someone properly after a few months.
    People talk about the warm, friendly people in Brazil, but I have often found Brazilians to be ruthless opportunists who couldn’t care less about anyone else. You need to be careful; that cute Brazilian girl or guy might well turn into a cold monster.
    But my wife and I have been happily married for 3 years!

  • #272861

    gengibre
    Member

    In terms of finances, it depends on the value of the assets. You might end up spending more on legal fees than you would recoup from the apartment. When you consider the debt already owed to your parents, is it worth it? How much would 50% of the assets be? Then you have to factor in the stress, time etc. You need to do a cost v benefit assessment. Anything bought after the date of your marriage is normally considered to be 50 / 50 owned, regardless of who pays for it or where the money came from.
    As for a criminal prosecution for threats etc, forget it. It would be more trouble than it’s worth. Your ex wife is going to deny any wrongdoing and probably counter-accuse you of intimidation etc. I’m guessing there were no independent witnesses present, which again makes it all the more difficult. You would have a weak case. Furthermore, you would probably have to go back to Brazil to give evidence. Consider the cost, stress etc etc. And to what end? Even if she were convicted, which is very unlikely, nothing much would happened to her. If there’s a criminal prosecution against you, it might be you who ends up in jail
    If I were you, I would get your divorce, cut your losses and move on with your life. If your health is suffering then court cases and so on will only make it worse. Tiredforeigner2015-02-06 18:03:36

  • #272863

    ffm
    Member

    I was kind of thinking what Tired just said. Walk away if you can. Chalk it up as a bad life experience and as hard as I know it will be to do so, move on.

    I wish you the best in it all.
    *by the way, you’ll hardly EVER see me “stick up” for Brazilians but I don’t think they are that much MORE ruthless than their counterparts in the first world in terms of relationships. I have friends and have heard horror stories of gold digging be-atches in the US that would make your toes curl. My ex and I broke up because we don’t get along but she has not tried to screw me in the least. She’s crazy, yes, but has not tried to get anything more than what even I think I should pay (kid involved).
  • #272870

    Winlearn
    Member

    This sounds like hpeak (Hunter Peak) in about 10 years but with kids.

  • #272871

    hoganti
    Member

    [QUOTE=38 Special]This sounds like hpeak (Hunter Peak) in about 10 years but with kids.[/QUOTE]

    Hopefully not!
  • #272872

    Winlearn
    Member

    I hope not either. :)

  • #272873

    celso
    Member

    I am sorry to hear of your living nightmare.
    You should get a divorce. In divorce you both agree to sell the property and you give her some money to go away.
    Your attorney will know how to negotiate.
    How about posting some pictures of property and gringo hunting gold digger?
    Good luck!

  • #272877

    Alex
    Participant

    Hi,
    My story isn’t interesting enough?
    If anybody has something to say on my threat please reply there :)
    Topic: ‘Divorce, No Kids, Alimony to (ex) Wife?’
    Thanks!

  • #272881

    gengibre
    Member

    I wouldn’t trust a Brazilian lawyer as far as I could throw him / her. Every other person calls himself a lawyer or an accountant. When you combine the normal characteristics of a lawyer with general Brazilian incompetence, you’re heading for a disaster. The guys who say they are lawyers often seem more like the parking lot guys who ‘look after your car’. I swear to God. Check registration, qualifications, reputation etc before entrusting even the most basic task to these incompetent sharks. Tiredforeigner2015-02-07 10:22:51

  • #272923

    a6abeGGkz-0
    Member

    Hi
    I am also sorry to hear your story. I think it wouldnt be a bad idea to sue her as well . It’s good for several reasons , it’d make you feel good, it’s a back at your face you b@@@ I mean you crazy woman type of thing but most importantly it shows her that you are serious too and to back off . If you dont stand up she might just keep going at you for more of everything. You came this far – got married brought property together so what’s the difference to go another extra mile. Hopefully it doesn’t have to be stressful like Tired said you have to find a good competent lawyer who can just do all the work for you . Good luck I trust you are wiser after this experience

  • #272930

    Serrano
    Participant

    [QUOTE=lightbulb]
    When I returned to Brasil, having started the process of eventually emigrating, she told me the truth, that she was already in a relationship of ten years, and that I should forget our plans and return to my country.
    Obviously, I didn’t want to do that, so I spent three weeks on my own in a hotel in Brasil, and eventually convinced her to end her existing relationship and continue with our plans.
    [/QUOTE]
    Ummm, what part of “already in a relationship (of ten years)” did you not understand??? Confused
    Forgive the pun, but that should have been a ‘light bulb moment’.

  • #272932

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=Gringo.Serrano] [QUOTE=lightbulb]
    When I returned to Brasil, having started the process of eventually emigrating, she told me the truth, that she was already in a relationship of ten years, and that I should forget our plans and return to my country.
    Obviously, I didn’t want to do that, so I spent three weeks on my own in a hotel in Brasil, and eventually convinced her to end her existing relationship and continue with our plans.
    [/QUOTE]
    Ummm, what part of “already in a relationship (of ten years)” did you not understand???¬† Confused
    Forgive the pun, but that should have been a ‘light bulb moment’.
    [/QUOTE]
    Her macumba blinded the gringo. He was then caught hook, line and sinker. Often these high stake money games have tragic endings.

  • #272933

    Serrano
    Participant

    [QUOTE=GreatBallsoFire]
    Her macumba blinded the gringo.[/QUOTE]
    Was it macumba, or just the musky scent of a dusky maiden…?

  • #272937

    ffm
    Member

    [QUOTE=Gringo.Serrano][QUOTE=GreatBallsoFire]
    Her macumba blinded the gringo.[/QUOTE]
    Was it macumba, or just the musky scent of a dusky maiden…?
    [/QUOTE]

    What’s the difference? LOL
  • #273223

    Anonymous

    Sorry, to hear about your marriage. I almost ended up proposing to a Brasileira I met during the world cup. They do whatever they can to get you, but you have to keep your eyes and ears open for signs of trouble ahead. In your case your wife is a psychopath who actually confessed to screwing you over. I know it’s probably not for everyone, but I would not marry a Brasileira who didn’t already live in America.

  • #273232

    Winlearn
    Member

    This happens to 99% of all foreign guys who enter upon the brazer marriage.

  • #273260

    ffm
    Member

    [QUOTE=38 Special]This happens to 99% of all foreign guys who enter upon the brazer marriage. [/QUOTE]

    The Abbot2015-02-19 06:38:20

  • #273271

    akash kumar
    Member

    Capital B and Capital S. LOL

  • #273272

    ffm
    Member

    I usually am not one to defend Brazil or her people but this butt-hurtedness over Brazilian women displayed by a few cornos on this site and on face(y) is actually kind of gross. Be a man, gentlemen. If you got burned keep it to yourself or possibly drown those sorrows.

    This is one aspect where the “it can happen anywhere” thing applies. I have had nothing but positive interactions with Brazilian women in the respect that they were good people. I am not with them anymore not because they are bad people in the least, o contrair, they are good people. We just no longer wanted each other’s company.
  • #273281

    agri2001
    Participant

    [QUOTE=The Abbot] I am not with them anymore not because they are bad people in the least, o contrair, they are good people. We just no longer wanted each other’s company because my wife caught me hitting on her sister.
    [/QUOTE]

    I kinda fixed it for ya.. LOL
  • #273289

    ffm
    Member

    [QUOTE=agri2001][QUOTE=The Abbot] I am not with them anymore not because they are bad people in the least, o contrair, they are good people. We just no longer wanted each other’s company because my wife caught me hitting on her sister.
    [/QUOTE]

    I kinda fixed it for ya.. LOL

    [/QUOTE]

    LOLNo…………………………………………………………………………..
    *she never caught me! Wink
  • #273295

    Sambolina
    Member

    I have a question: Would a Brazilian man ever let himself get into the situation described by OP. I mean, do you ever see Brazilian men putting up with physical abuse from a woman and taking threats? Knowing a few Brazilian guys, they seem to “push back” so to speak immediately when a woman starts getting aggressive.

  • #273297

    ffm
    Member

    And Brazilian women feed off that push back! They see it as affection.

  • #273300

    Anonymous

    In my limited experience, Brazilians are verbally and physically aggressive. Have you ever watched Te Peguei tv show on rede? See How Brazilians react and that will answer your question.

  • #273346

    ffm
    Member

    [QUOTE=newyork37]In my limited experience, Brazilians are verbally and physically aggressive. Have you ever watched Te Peguei tv show on rede? See How Brazilians react and that will answer your question. [/QUOTE]

    I can speak for the North East of the USA when I say Americans can be very so, as well. Just jump the line in a Wawa in the Philly or Central Jersey area and you’re sure to see some aggression! LOL
  • #273359

    Marc Maserati
    Participant

    I am a fan of the type and I found my wife in the US!
    Marc

  • #273366

    Anonymous

    [QUOTE=The Abbot]I can speak for the North East of the USA when I say Americans can be very so, as well. Just jump the line in a Wawa in the Philly or Central Jersey area and you’re sure to see some aggression! LOL
    [/QUOTE]Are you talking to me????

    (rather, You tawkin ta me? As GS never fails to remind me, I have to keep my Fran Drescher accent in training here.)
  • #273372

    ffm
    Member

    Exactly tres!

    One thing you don’t get down here (graìßas a deus) are the meat heads at night clubs looking for fights! That is a particularly bizarre NE USA phenomenon which I am glad I don’t have t put up with here.
  • #28203

    Lucianaf
    Member

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