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  • #224333

    Charing
    Member

    Hi all
    I am new to brazil,but only speak some basic portuuese, I have been learning for some time in London.
    I am now 27, and will be in brazil to study and work. Was wondering if there are any good dating sites, not those ones that are full of girls who want a eu passport which I have, and looking just for money. Middle class girls who have good jobs and like to meet people not because they have a eu passport. I am trying to learn some Portuguese right now, but its a difficult language I think.
    Thanks

  • #224636

    Gilmour
    Member

    ^^ Haha, they are all looking for money. All of them. They can say otherwise all they want to, but what do you need to feed, clothe and educate babies? Money. This is universal though, and not Brazilian. It’s the female “mission in life”. Notice how I mentioned babies as the objective and not frivilous luxuries. Also be careful with the “golpe de barriga”. I see so many guys get roped in with this one all the time.
    Brazilians are very socialable and love to waste time, so I bet that all you need to do is go into all of the major sites and you’ll find lots of Brazilians there. I don’t even really know why you would need a dating site. Best thing you can do is: meet some Brazilian guys. Guys? Yep. Guys. They’ll take you to parties, clubs, etc.. Along the way you will likely meet lotsa girls.

  • #224641

    Charing
    Member

    It depends on the guy, some guys are selfish, and u end up stuck to his schedule. Like he is just thinking of himself.
    But Some others are nice, and they introduce you to people. You just know that its pleasant to be around them. You get along with them well. They have similar values to you.
    So I made friends with this guy, and he took me to this funk cub in barra , Rio. There were like 99% Brazilians, and. M friend actually helped me to translate! Rio girls are about too open though
    What about making friends with Brazilian girls? There is this website called couch surfing where you can meet people.
    What is golpe de barriga

  • #224643

    Charing
    Member

    Also what about talking to girls on the street? Or in the mall?
    My Portuguese is not that good so habit difficult.

  • #224644

    Anonymous

    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio] Also what about talking to girls on the street?[/QUOTE]
    It will cost you
    What you need is a Brazilian friend that will present you to a friend of his/her.
    Basically a door opener.

  • #224645

    Charing
    Member

    Well. Some guys I met have not done this.
    You mean the girls walking on the streets are hookers?
    I thought they are just normal girls, going to school/ work.
    Have you heated of couch surfing?

  • #224646

    Patigell
    Member

    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio]Well. Some guys I met have not done this.

    You mean the girls walking on the streets are hookers?
    I thought they are just normal girls, going to school/ work.
    Have you heated of couch surfing?[/QUOTE] haha for the 3rd time meet some decent Brazilian guy friends and they will bring you into the honey pot of somewhat normal girls. this isn’t france where a guy is jeolous of another guy because he’s has the newest Louis Vuitton man purse. this is real man territory. hahaha

  • #224647

    Charing
    Member

    Don’t really understand what you mean by real man terootory.
    I have french nationality, but actually from Asia.

  • #224648

    Patigell
    Member

    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio]Don’t really understand what you mean by real man terootory.

    I have french nationality, but actually from Asia. [/QUOTE] Well……

  • #224657

    chrish
    Member

    you’re doing it wrong. the party scene is probably the best thing about Brazil, stop looking at dating sites or the street (lol), go to a club instead.
    also if girls being “too open” is a problem then Brazil is not the right country for you.marcobjj2012-10-24 03:03:31

  • #224665

    doctorlili
    Member

    Which “Funk Club in Barra” are you talking about? Nuth?
    I agree that you can forget about dating sites. You can use POF for free. But there is nothing that beats face-to-face engagement.
    Be aware that the venue at which you meet preselects for character traits:
    – Orkut/Facebook – narcissistic girls
    – dating sites – scammers and those with flaws
    – clubs – clubbers :)
    – pick-up joints
    – malls, calçadão – normal people
    – beach – normal people
    – church, dance class, other activity focus – normal people into that thing
    In countries like India that are closed and hide their women, dating sites may be necessary. But not in Brazil.

  • #224674

    Charing
    Member

    Activities, nice, but not focused enough for datng
    Alexbaggio2012-12-02 17:31:13

  • #224698

    Gilmour
    Member

    Alex, are you blonde? hehe. Everyone here seems to basically be telling you the same thing. You are just trying to complicate things.
    If you want to see a lot of girls, decent girls, take a trip from Rio and go to one of the University towns in Minas like Juiz de Fora, Lavras, etc.. Juiz de Fora, especially, is filled with college girls just walking down the main street. They have a few clubs there, that I never went to. If you don’t meet anyone, then at least they have a decent (a few) redlight sort of clubs, if that’s what floats your boat. But I wouldn’t recommend falling in love with any girls from those sort of places, else, they may find your body parts in a suitcase. Coincidentally, you are of Asian descent too.
    “Golpe de barriga” is when the girl gets pregnant to get a pensão for the kid. Some women will take the pill right in front of you, and then put in the corner of the mouth and spit it out later. I see a case of this about once a week. The more extreme cases are when the fathers are not the husband or boyfriend Stern%20Smile

  • #224702

    sven van ‘t Veer
    Participant

    There is always 4×4 and Centaurus….

  • #224706

    Charing
    Member

    No I am not blonde. Asian origin, black hair, black eyes, etc…
    What is 4 x 4? Or census?
    Will go with the street conversations then.

  • #224799

    Gilmour
    Member

    I think I remember the 4×4. What good memory you have for remembering small mistakes! hehe.
    The centaurus, I’m clueless.

  • #224970

    chrish
    Member

    [QUOTE=Squiddie] Which “Funk Club in Barra” are you talking about? Nuth?I agree that you can forget about dating sites. You can use POF for free. But there is nothing that beats face-to-face engagement.Be aware that the venue at which you meet preselects for character traits:¬†- Orkut/Facebook – narcissistic girls¬†- dating sites – scammers and those with flaws¬†- clubs – clubbers :)¬†- pick-up joints¬†- malls, calçadão – normal people¬†- beach – normal people¬†- church, dance class, other activity focus – normal people into that thingIn countries like
    [/QUOTE]
    The Gym – best place of all to meet girls.

  • #224988

    doctorlili
    Member

    isn’t 4×4 some therma?

  • #225610

    Gilmour
    Member

    Squiddie, Sven is making fun of a comment I made on here of a bad calculation of the metric system a couple of months back.
    I’m quite sure that he’s only doing it because of my English (mom’s side going back to the early 1600 hundreds) and Dutch (going back 200 or so years on Dad’s side).. ok… I’m not perfect. I’m close to it, but not 100% <grin>. We all make careless mistakes, be-it with math, Portguese, the imperial system, etc.. :-)

  • #225747

    Charing
    Member

    Have tried be 2. Had to fill out this lengthy form which is like 5 pages long and took me 30 minutes…

  • #225760

    Charing
    Member

    [QUOTE=frank4000]
    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio]Have tried be 2. Had to fill out this lengthy form which is like 5 pages long and took me 30 minutes…[/QUOTE]That is to improve your chances of finding someone compatible with you. You can also try amolatina, they are on the expensive side but they also do tours and offer a translation services.I have meet many nice women using Brasilcupid and Yahoo Encontros.¬† My suggestion is you focus on improving your portugues while using the sites to meet people with whom you can practise with. In the end you find someone offsite. Don’t get involved with anyone until your sure brasil is the place for you, visit a few times.[/QUOTE]
    haha. yes, my portuguese improved ALOT by just chatting with them. some girls speak really fast though, they type like voce is vc, and some other stuff which i dont understand even after looking at dictionary. Some are very patient and nice :)
    So visit a few times and dont get involved too soon?
    THE problem i have been having is they always ask how long you are here…. i think the answer is that you live here. (which i will be), otherwise they will not like it, just to meet a random stranger and he disappear soon after, I think Brazilian woman are more emotional than Westerners, they develop some feeling for you…
    sad…:(

  • #225761

    sven van ‘t Veer
    Participant

    [QUOTE=frank4000]
    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio]
    What is 4 x 4?
    [/QUOTE]It is a whore house alt=”LOL[/IMG][/QUOTE]
    Hmm at one of my old jobs we used to refer to it as “churrascaria”

  • #225771

    sven van ‘t Veer
    Participant

    We used to go out for beers every second friday. The Picanha was real good back then.

  • #225774

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=spongebob] Alex, are you blonde? hehe. Everyone here seems to basically be telling you the same thing. You are just trying to complicate things.If you want to see a lot of girls, decent girls, take a trip from Rio and go to one of the University towns in Minas like Juiz de Fora, Lavras, etc.. Juiz de Fora, especially, is filled with college girls just walking down the main street. They have a few clubs there, that I never went to. If you don’t meet anyone, then at least they have a decent (a few) redlight sort of clubs, if that’s what floats your boat. But I wouldn’t recommend falling in love with any girls from those sort of places, else, they may find your body parts in a suitcase. Coincidentally, you are of Asian descent too.”Golpe de barriga” is when the girl gets pregnant to get a pensão for the kid. Some women will take the pill right in front of you, and then put in the corner of the mouth and spit it out later. I see a case of this about once a week. The more extreme cases are when the fathers are not the husband or boyfriend Stern%20Smile
    [/QUOTE]
    Great advice! I know a Brazilian whose sister got pregnant without marrying because she wanted a blonde baby. Golpe de barriga is very common. Hang out in a college town to meet some nice smart women. Great idea. Could even rent a place and teach English and see what shows up…You can always turn down students for having a full load at the hours requested…

  • #226221

    Charing
    Member

    [QUOTE=GreatBallsoFire] [QUOTE=spongebob] Alex, are you blonde? hehe. Everyone here seems to basically be telling you the same thing. You are just trying to complicate things.If you want to see a lot of girls, decent girls, take a trip from Rio and go to one of the University towns in Minas like Juiz de Fora, Lavras, etc.. Juiz de Fora, especially, is filled with college girls just walking down the main street. They have a few clubs there, that I never went to. If you don’t meet anyone, then at least they have a decent (a few) redlight sort of clubs, if that’s what floats your boat. But I wouldn’t recommend falling in love with any girls from those sort of places, else, they may find your body parts in a suitcase. Coincidentally, you are of Asian descent too.”Golpe de barriga” is when the girl gets pregnant to get a pensão for the kid. Some women will take the pill right in front of you, and then put in the corner of the mouth and spit it out later. I see a case of this about once a week. The more extreme cases are when the fathers are not the husband or boyfriend Stern%20Smile
    [/QUOTE]
    Great advice! I know a Brazilian whose sister got pregnant without marrying because she wanted a blonde baby. Golpe de barriga is very common. Hang out in a college town to meet some nice smart women. Great idea. Could even rent a place and teach English and see what shows up…You can always turn down students for having a full load at the hours requested…[/QUOTE]
    ya that sounds great! teaching english and meeting people. :)
    Alexbaggio2012-12-02 17:32:54

  • #226267

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=Alexbaggio]the only thing is that you will meet alot of girls of relatively poorer background and not so good looking. but they are REALLY nice people! the upper class girls dont really care about foreigners at first until you know then abit better :)[/QUOTE]
    I don’t think girls want hear “You are not very attractive, but you are a really nice person!”
    Here is my old framework of rules. I hope it helps:
    #1 – stay far away from women that have boyfriends, or are married. If anything, it’s just bad karma.
    #2 – If it’s obvious, standing very close to you, touching you, “close the sale.”
    #3 – “Close the Sale” anyway. I can’t even remember how many times in my life I was chatting with some girl in some country, in some setting, where I knew the girl from anywhere between 10 minutes and a matter of saying “Hi” everyday for a couple of weeks, thinking “This girl is so f’ing hot, she’ll never do anything with me.” The question gets asked and she says OK!!
    #4 – Never turn down an offer. This honestly is the ONLY thing that I really regret in my life, especially when I was single.
    #5 – last one. This is another regret: I think this has happened to me a few times, but only 1 case really comes to mind. If you feel/see chemistry, HOOK UP!!Even if you don’t know the language. If not, you’ll regret it.
    Yeaaarsss ago, I was visiting a friend that had a roomate that was just the hottest girl to my eyes. But my knowledge of her language was sh*t and vice versa. Big mistake. For the next couple of years, bound to not make the same mistake twice, I was hooking up with girls that I honestly didn’t know one word of their language. I hope they are all doing very well in life, but guess which one I regret to this day? The one that got away.
    Happy hunting!spongebob2012-11-11 16:37:19

  • #226272

    NYesq
    Member

    I’ve got a good one for you. The BADOO site. Alot of Brasilians use it. I joined when I first came to Brazil, put in my profile and pic and within the first month got over 100 responses. I met some really good people there. That’s how I finally got married and lived happily ever after.

  • #226275

    NYesq
    Member

    One more thing. ON the BADOO site I never met a bad person. The fact that I spoke really poor Portuguese and they spoke really bad English made for a humorous bond. The first phone call was always a little uncomfortable but in person it was a lot of fun. I used it for four years and NEVER had a bad experience. Some better than others of course. :) This is in Curitiba so maybe it is different up north. Welcome to Brazil and good luck.

  • #226276

    Charing
    Member

    you used it for 4 years? wow thats alot of time. yes people are really nice !
    especially if your portuguese is not good. but i haveny met any really beautiful girl yet:) but really liked the people. although you have to also think about where.to meet. sone girls live 2hours away and it becomes a mere chat. one girl also flaked me 5 times in setting up a date but shes really nice and i dont mind too much.
    one suggestion is that there are some wierd peiple you should avoid. i got really scared at one girl showing me.her.facebook.and bshe had a doll and blood

  • #226277

    Charing
    Member

    did you get the superpowers on badoo?

  • #226292

    NYesq
    Member

    I can’t help you with finding the beautiful ones. Short, tall, thin, plump, blond, dark, blue eyed, brown eyes or one eyed, we all have our own preferences and fetishes. Just don’t respond to the ones you are not attracted to and never drive 2 hours to meet them. Always meet them for coffee in the city…in public. And as far as the superpowers..nope, not BADOO. It’s purely genetic.

  • #226681

    Arkmuda
    Member

    Forget Badoo. Put aside some cash for a membership at a Bodytech or other decent gym. Go hang out in leg section, preferably by leg press machines or racks where they have to handle the weights themselves. Wait until she tries to lift the 20kg plates by herself, then you go in for the kill. They also offer a million different aerobic/dancing/spinning classes that are usually packed with young, ripe, upscale hotties. Get the premium membership, so if you don’t like the girls at one location, you just go to the next one. Happy hunting : )

  • #226752

    gringodr
    Member

    LOL – this thread had me in stiches…

  • #226774

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=pyth0n] Forget Badoo. Put aside some cash for a membership at a Bodytech or other decent gym. Go hang out in leg section, preferably by leg press machines or racks where they have to handle the weights themselves. Wait until she tries to lift the 20kg plates by herself, then you go in for the kill. They also offer a million different aerobic/dancing/spinning classes that are usually packed with young, ripe, upscale hotties. Get the premium membership, so if you don’t like the girls at one location, you just go to the next one. Happy hunting : )
    [/QUOTE]
    Go in for the kill, eh? This one was good. I said “Close the sale” and yours was even better!
    ^^ your suggestion is very valid and probably has much better results than dating site/crap. It cuts out a step in the process because they see the guy right there, and probably don’t lift the weight on purpose!
    Just a blast from the past who may be reading this:
    Way back when many years ago, I picked up women from the hotline. Back in those days (early 90’s) we didn’t have the internet. A girl would post what she was looking for in the newspaper, and a guy paid money to leave a message. If the girl was interested, she would respond with contact information (phone number).
    I was an extreme hornball and extremely *gutsy* because I would hop in my car and drive down to SE (Southeast) Washington DC to pick up some of these women. Just because it was SE doesn’t mean that *ALL* of the women were crack addicts. But SE was definitely at the top of crime statistics in the US during that period. Some of theme were great. I sometimes still wonder how some of them turned out….
    OP, during that time I had some major cases of Black fathers who hated me because I was white. Some of them screamed at me directly. Most just gave me dirty looks. Sure, I *WAS* going for the gold with their daughters, but who knows how things may have turned out had they not been racist towards me.
    Returning to present-day:
    OP – take all the suggestions you can. I doubt anybody will give you a hard time for trying to procreate the species– hopefully. Nowadays, at least, if amyone does that, you can take video of them and put it on Youtube and denounce them as racist bas***ds.

  • #226827

    Gilmour
    Member

    No Frank, some of it was racist for sure, I know because some of the daughters were telling me what their dads were saying. Usually someone shaking their fist at you and screaming is a bad sign. Speaking of that, Wheww.. and I said on here what happened whenever I was with a fling-of-mine in a shopping center across from the Pentagon. I thought I was going to get lyched in 1996. Back in those days, I was young, so never confronted the fathers, or made an effort to get to know them. If the same sort of thing happened nowadays, I’d just talk with them. It’s human nature to be scared of the unknown. But this wouldn’t happen in Brazil because everyone is mixed with everything. People may have some pre-conceived notions about things, but they usually don’t hold up very well here.
    Long live sex and having a good time!
    spongebob2012-11-17 17:10:53

  • #226983

    Gilmour
    Member

    [QUOTE=frank4000]
    Lol sponge. I guess you have no daughters?[/QUOTE]
    Daughers? Not that I know of…
    That said, I’m extremely paranoid that some judge(s) <- Plural) are going to hit me with child support payments all over the US and Europe (continental). This is the main reason I probably “lay low” on the internet.
    ** If I had a kid, then I would be extremely angry if a woman kept it private from me **.. Hmm.. dunno, I’ve not exactly been the easiest person to get in touch with all of these years. The only people who remotely have an idea where I’m located are my parents (they think Brazil is in Africa), but I don’t speak to them either.
    Noooo!to any armchair-quaterback-psychologists, a not-so-great relationship with my parents has nothing to do with my sex drive. I’m just addicted to women. Women are a drug to me. My wife is my drug and I think she likes it.
    Sometimes I comment on here about how it was when I was younger, “if I were younger…” but if you put my brain on a younger body, I’d probably get sick of it and want to come back to reality now.

  • #226992

    Gilmour
    Member

    ^^ “running from” is not the right word.
    Dislike country of birth – Definitely, but “running from” / aka “hiding from” is not a good choice of words since it’s not that. I’m somewhat mired here now. I can’t just pick up and leave at a moment’s notice. My wife is probably thinking “F-yeah” right about now.
    There’re a lot of Brazilians that fit into this category too. They are unhappy with something, usually the tax and political situation and they leave the the US or Europe. It’s their right to leave if they want to.

  • #270061

    Anonymous

    They have Brasilian dating sites? Why would you look for a girl on a dating site in Brasil? Kinda lame…

  • #270065

    celso
    Member

    [QUOTE=spongebob] ^^ Haha, they are all looking for money. All of them. They can say otherwise all they want to, but what do you need to feed, clothe and educate babies? Money. This is universal though, and not Brazilian. It’s the female “mission in life”. Notice how I mentioned babies as the objective and not frivilous luxuries. Also be careful with the “golpe de barriga”. I see so many guys get roped in with this one all the time.
    Brazilians are very socialable and love to waste time, so I bet that all you need to do is go into all of the major sites and you’ll find lots of Brazilians there. I don’t even really know why you would need a dating site. Best thing you can do is: meet some Brazilian guys. Guys? Yep. Guys. They’ll take you to parties, clubs, etc.. Along the way you will likely meet lotsa girls.
    This golpe de barriga happens all The time in The NE. Local women view a gringo baby as a cash cow. If you don’t Wants a child, wear a condom.
    [/QUOTE]

  • #270067

    Anonymous

    I don’t think the golpe de barriga is a Brazilian thing. It’s universal to every culture and community.

  • #270107

    ffm
    Member

    [QUOTE=frank4000]always better to meet people in bars[/QUOTE]

    I prefer churches. You already know they believe in stupid sh** so it’s easier to get them to do what you want. LOL
  • #270209

    doctorlili
    Member

    POF and Badoo have worked decently for me. I don’t trust these special things like Brazil cupid or Latin bride or junk like that. It’s either scams or gold diggers.

    I struck 2 super prospects solid and serious with POF and a bit of random stuff on Badoo.
    The interesting thing is, I did a test myself with a Brazilian female profile on POF and was inundated in mails from suitors (12 per day minimum as long as I kept checking in to appear in the search list). However 3 times now, the real girl I ended up meeting told me she had at most one other real encounter from the site. They are extremely choosy it seems. This means, if they choose to respond and meet up with you, they have a stake in the success already. I found that remarkable — and no, I don’t think all 3 of them were independently lying.
  • #270211

    [QUOTE=Squiddie]. They are extremely choosy it seems.[/QUOTE]
    Ah tì°!
    LOL

  • #270215

    doctorlili
    Member

    … well, I suppose the better ones are. Both of the ones I met were pretty conscientious workers. I am sure there are a bunch that are less choosy.

  • #270217

    Squiddo, how would you know if they are “giving it up” to the whole neighborhood or just choosy?
    Hehehe, I can’t wait to see this response!

  • #270242

    doctorlili
    Member

    I know what you mean. Trust nobody, much less a woman talking about her sex life. I know what you mean. I prefer a slightly different approach. I choose whom I trust how far and avoid giving anyone power over me. If I err the loss is limited.

  • #270812

    corso
    Member

    You don’t have to use Brazilian websites only! I’d like to share some of my experience with you. I’ve been using rbrideswebsite for some months and chatted with about ten Russian and Ukrainian girls so far. I’ve dated three of them already, and I’d like to say that they are really lovely. If you want to meet someone, you should definitely try looking online ;)

  • #270818

    ffm
    Member

    Now the spammers are keeping this thread alive! huahahauahahauahahahauahauahauahauahauaahuhuahaha!

  • #23728

    Sandrinha
    Member

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