Gringoes.com: Effect on Family

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frank4000
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Joined: 29 November 2008
Location: Trinidad and Tobago
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Posted: 04 June 2012 at 11:18

lol @sven

Meu Vizinho Jogou um semente no seu quintal

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custom_model
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Joined: 11 January 2012
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Posted: 11 June 2012 at 20:20

My family miss me and will continue to do so, as I will them. But they have told me many times that what they really want is for me to be happy, and they know that she is the person who makes me happy.

Of course it's hard but that's life.

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CheckPls
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Joined: 23 June 2011
Location: United States
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Posted: 11 June 2012 at 21:54

I think this is actually a huge issue. Not that it cannot be worked out but glad you at least worry about it. Because of the distance birthdays, anniversaries, family and friends get togethers especially in the summers, general support is usually missed. I read here that the wifes family is enough... it is not really. Your own family you have history with....songs you grew up with that take you back to great memories when you hear them on the radio.... works with the ones you left behind as well. Summer concerts my BF and I (we are both americans) love to go to for the 4th or just great old rock bands are now worked into the schedule... it irks me sometimes... but we deal with it.

Your family is your family so they will support you be there is tons you miss just be prepared..... there is a lot of good memories you won't be part of if you cannot return home for years..... My ex missed tons with our daughter and he was just in another city. Life flies and there is no redos.

If you are happy I am sure they will support you but don't be surprised if they also don't include you in all things. People get busy with life and work.... it is out of sight out of mind most times.

that is my opinion... not saying what you do is wrong but there are consequences that come up.

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jane11
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Joined: 16 October 2012
Location: United Kingdom
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Posted: 17 October 2012 at 10:16

HI, I just wondered how you are getting on. I think it is great you are thinking about these things before getting married and I know how you feel about family. The important things for me (looking back) - are you both from the same financial backgrounds, can you afford to get back to your country on a regular basis, what about raising kids? Honesty with each other now will save a lot of problems down the road as with any partnership but I would suggest living together as long as possible (visas) in each others country before any big steps. I was in similar position, it has been big culture shocks on both sides.

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frank4000 Senior Member Joined: 29 November 2008 Location: Trinidad and Tobago Online Status: Offline Posts: 1512	Posted: 04 June 2012 at 11:18
	lol @sven
	Meu Vizinho Jogou um semente no seu quintal
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custom_model Newbie Joined: 11 January 2012 Online Status: Offline Posts: 5	Posted: 11 June 2012 at 20:20
	My family miss me and will continue to do so, as I will them. But they have told me many times that what they really want is for me to be happy, and they know that she is the person who makes me happy. Of course it's hard but that's life.
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CheckPls Groupie Joined: 23 June 2011 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 43	Posted: 11 June 2012 at 21:54
	I think this is actually a huge issue. Not that it cannot be worked out but glad you at least worry about it. Because of the distance birthdays, anniversaries, family and friends get togethers especially in the summers, general support is usually missed. I read here that the wifes family is enough... it is not really. Your own family you have history with....songs you grew up with that take you back to great memories when you hear them on the radio.... works with the ones you left behind as well. Summer concerts my BF and I (we are both americans) love to go to for the 4th or just great old rock bands are now worked into the schedule... it irks me sometimes... but we deal with it. Your family is your family so they will support you be there is tons you miss just be prepared..... there is a lot of good memories you won't be part of if you cannot return home for years..... My ex missed tons with our daughter and he was just in another city. Life flies and there is no redos. If you are happy I am sure they will support you but don't be surprised if they also don't include you in all things. People get busy with life and work.... it is out of sight out of mind most times. that is my opinion... not saying what you do is wrong but there are consequences that come up.
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jane11 Newbie Joined: 16 October 2012 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 6	Posted: 17 October 2012 at 10:16
	HI, I just wondered how you are getting on. I think it is great you are thinking about these things before getting married and I know how you feel about family. The important things for me (looking back) - are you both from the same financial backgrounds, can you afford to get back to your country on a regular basis, what about raising kids? Honesty with each other now will save a lot of problems down the road as with any partnership but I would suggest living together as long as possible (visas) in each others country before any big steps. I was in similar position, it has been big culture shocks on both sides.
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