I'll make this short as possible. I met this Brazilian girl on an online dating site. Visited first in December, came back February. She was in Paranai two kids (girl 7 semi-cool, boy younger 3 years pretty crazy, aggresive, always crying, always shouting). She separated from ex-husband but I suspect they where still doing on and off thing till lately - cos she still took the birth control while I was away or she was doing it with someone else (Trust is not in my dictionary I'm sorry). When I came back we moved to Rio where her family comes from originally. My other other friends always warn me that this type of relationship is dangerous and the so called ex mostly still wants her back and wont think twice about killing me :p

She said she told him she already moved on and that she's dating someone now though. Girl family likes me and all. But she super jealous!!! When I talk anything serious she gets into all this emotional stance. She usually jealous about the mother of my children, who I still have good relationship with since has the children. And the kids are young  so I always put call first to their mom. She text me too. And sometimes BRGF  gets to read the text. And when she can't she ask questions like "Does she say I love you?"

Oh yeah she say "Te amor" about 100 times a day sounds very boring and tiring. And always wants reconfirmation. Well I stopped answering. Because it sounds like abuse of the word. I explained this to her. But got another emotional drama. I get in trouble if I dont hold her hands when we taking a walk.

I've helped a lot financially. But dont know if thats why she is keeping me. She's Overly protective. Dont want us to be anywhere there are too much younger girls or mulhers at all. We once exited a store in hurry cos a girl was staring at me. I've got a smack on my head right on busy road for looking at a girl more than 5 secs.

I'm usually cool type. But not like cool cool with ladies. I'm just trying to change. Of-course we 27, 26years respectively. I told her a little about my past with several other girls she was emotional for 2days+. Didn't give her the full story though cos I can't remember how many faces I've been with. But just a few I told her. Well she told me she once had a 3some and I didn't flinch. And she always wanted to know more about my previous relationship took me a week to tell her a little because I know how jealous she can get even if its a thing of the past. Her so called ex-husband calls atleast almost everyday and it doesn't bother me. But I do not have rights to do anything close to that.

In real sense - I'm not the love type guy. My emotions are mostly attached to my money and my kids. She wants to have a baby with me after noticing my attachment to kids. I like a her kids too even the crazy son. The ex was a drug user, cheat and a drunk who physically abused her a lot. Thats definition I got from her and her family. Her family is happy for her that she was able to exit the relationship or have someone new and maybe a younger guy too. Are my just a tool to get over the ex? Her paranoia rubbing off on me ;) I once suggested that she can reconcile with the ex because of the kids lets say dude gets clean for real. She warned me not to ever repeat the statement :p

Question do I walk away? Rent an apartment and just be free. I'm close to the mother of my children in ways I think any woman will be jealous. We dont talk all the time but atleast sms back and forth mostly about my kids.

I've discussed moving out. Then the emotional drama and then wanting to rush me out knowing I'm not prepared immediately. I told her a week+ will be fair. Speak poor Portuguese but atleast can get around.  Good with the ladies too. But hate the kitchen I would rather date an ugly girl that cooks just to make sure i get good home cooking lol and yeah when abroad home cooking can be much more cheaper.

Later she apologize and said we should forget about what we just discussed. :p I'm sure nobody forgets such. I need be prepared. She constantly sometimes talk about refunding me of the money I've spent on her new house i.e construction materials. Sounds stupid because I know this is a bluff she ain't got a job now.  I always told her I only give out whatever I think I can give as gift and never want anything back.

She once agreed that I can always go spend a month with my kids but keeps changing. Later thinking I'm still having sexual relationship with mother of my kids too. But unknown to her its easier for me to get with the girl next door than someone abroad. I'm originally African with polygamous background. And she knows this and sometimes make reference to it. Like I'm trying Have them both :p

maybe someone suggest I delete irrelevant paragraphs after reading. Long post are usually scare


Edited by virtalist2000 - 25 March 2012 at 09:14

Thanks GF; but this is Brazilian specific and may meet people encountering same delima with a brazilian woman

Yap drama queen act and still seing ex, been there done that not exactly healty relationship it's good I got out of it, because it was bloody nightmare. Next time I'll be more carefull and dump girls like that at beggining, I'm not an agony aunt.

Oh we moved to another state -Parana to Rio. But then I just got to know that the separation is delicate and unless a complete divorce is finalized she can loose custody of the children for dating? Dont know what the law is here. She sent dude some legal paperwork from the public FORUM and its about 3 weeks no acknowledgement if he got it or whatever. Dude pays $200 reals for two kids. Which can't cover baby sitting for the younger child alone.  I'm in the mix for real. I'm watching myself as co-actor in a estengeiro novela or something

Word is they have been separated for almost two years. I may die if I have a kid with her I think. sh*t I'm not permanent here and I dont want to marry either.  Muito confusion :(

Not sure why you are questioning the relationship, a complete waste of time for you.  Of course her family loves you, you will spend your money on her and put up with her crap.  You are being used and you seem to want jsomeone to justifiy her using you as a door mat.   I have a good relationship with my ex and it is the only way to go... healthy for both of us and very healthy for our daughter.  Actually, I know quite a few ex couples that have decent relationships, don't let her spoil that you will regret it.