"She doesn't take a salary but just uses the business bank account as she pleases"

That you need to worry about. If the business fails, that would allow the creditors to come after your personal assets. Profit HAS to be moved to a persOnal account, for personal use.

Divorce has been direct in Brazil for over a year now. Best way is to both get the same lawyer, write up an agreement and have a judge sign off on it.

Just do as Sven says

Originally posted by Gringodude I'd be careful and try and get your self out of any potential harm

Good advice -1

Thanks for the responses guys. Quite glad this this process can be done quick and easy.

I was initailly hesitant, for obvious reasons, to open the company for my ex. But as a loving and kind husband I did it for her. For the last 2 years I've pestering her to resolve the company finances, even trying to get her father involved. Now I couldn't care, just want out, out of the marriage and my name unassociated to the business. She was a very hard-headed woman, never giving me respect, hence I reached my limit.

Still, any recommendatons for a lawyer please let me know. I'm still waiting for a callback from a lawyer recommended to me by my friend, but am open to suggestions.

By the way, what's the process after the divorce? Would I need to contact the Policia Federal, or any other government department, to update my change of marriage status.

UPDATE (sorry it took so long):

Divorce will be going through, possibly at the end of next week. I temporarily (verbally) agreed to 30% of my salary (she wanted 36%) in child support and having the kids over every second weekend and once a week night. Kids are aged 5 and 7. But now I'm thinking if what I'm agreeing to won't be too much of a financial burden, too much in favour of the ex. Yes, we're sharing a lawyer, but I feel he's somewhat biased towards her and not considering my situation.

Things that concern me:
1) I have no family here, so support rests on my shoulders when looking after the kids, whereas she has much family support.
2) I earn less than my ex wife, about half her salary, and her's is difficult to prove since she pulls money from company account.
3) I have no car, I use public transport, and can't afford taxis.
4) Still need to find a place to rent, will most likely share or get a kitnet near to the kids school (within in relative walking distance to the ex). I'm currently lodging at a friend with no means to look after the kids on the weekends and need to be out within 2 weeks.
5) We have no assets, so all I have are my clothes. She lives in her family's apartment and doesn't pay condominio or rent.

The ex has been relatively peaceful these past 4 weeks, expressing happiness and showing me that she wants peace between us and to be relatively flexible in regards to sharing the kids, which was my original suggestion. But now 2 days ago after our meeting with the lawyer she became somewhat bitter, hinting that she'll seriously enforce whatever the judge rules, even if unfair towards me but leaving her in relative comfort.

I just want to know what my options are:
1) Is 30% fair, or law? 30% equates to my kids schooling fees per month. I hear there are cases where fathers pay less.
2) Is it fair that my level of comfort will be taking a much harder hit than my ex's? She'll still be able to afford to go out (clubs, restaurants, entertaining the kids, etc) regularly, whereas I won't have the same privilege.

I'm glad that I will get the kids around so often, but from my budgeting I'm pretty sure I can't really afford it.

UPDATE (regarding business):

She lied to her father as well about it (she said she was doing everything right, salaries, impostos, etc. but really wasn't). So he's taking the moral obligation to sort her mess out, and remove my name from it. Plus he knows if she continues managing it the way she has been it will affect the family as a whole, so he's hired accountants and met with financial regulators to resolve her mess. It's carrying debt and has been badly managed, so I'm running and want no share, never wanted a share of it anyway. Her father is good guy, so I got no reason not to trust him.