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sven
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 07:03

The most pertinent reply to inquiries like "advice on marriage" is DON'T! But few take this advice at heart.

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sven
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 07:16

The most pertinent reply to inquiries like "advice on marriage" is DON'T! But few take this advice at heart.

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WENGER
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 08:01

Originally posted by regs1987

hello! i am from ireland and i met a brazilian girl 6 months ago online! i am going to meet her soon as she is the love of my life, we are in contact everyday whether it be through phone,skype or messenger! i didnt go out to find someone online or to move to brazil or anything but the more i got to know her the more ive realised this is the one! she is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with! she is the love of my life! so when i checked up about getting a visa to stay there and live with her, i found out how difficult it is unless i have a work visa, which i cant get because i am not employed by a company that is over there! so we are considering getting married so i can stay there for as long as i want and we can be together for the rest of our lives! its what we both want! there is no doubt on my mind about this! what i need is advice on the process of applying for marriage etc, what i need to do, the process etc! and just to remind ye, this is pure for love and nothing else, its not about the visa or anything else! she is my destino and i want nothing more than to spend my life with this girl!

You have to change your Attitude

I hope that you are not saying her the same things that you have just said on the forum
The biggest mistake is to show the woman that you are crazy about her and that she is irreplaceable.
You sound NEEDY, Desperate, Wussy - WOMEN do not like such men
You are digging your own grave
you need to make women think about you instead of the other way around

Marrying her is a good idea, because you will be entitled to apply for permanent stay in Brasil.

When you come here look for a backup girlfriend, just in case...

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joegringo
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 08:47

I don't think you can generalize, people that say "this is what Brazilian women are like" or " this is what women think" are living in their own shallow little world.
I have married a Brazilian woman who I met and haven't regretted a moment of it.
Of course listen to yourself, be cautious, don't ignore the big head for a pretty face. Be yourself and if the potential love of your life loves that, then I'd say go for it.
Many people live their whole lives without really living at all, mainly out of fear.
Note that getting married in brazil is quite the procedure, there is quite a checklist.
If you come for 6 months on a tourist visa you will have to leave for six months afterwards, be prepared for that.

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Twirly
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 08:50

^^Not if he marries during the 6 months.
Getting married at the cartorio is pretty straight forward.
Do remember a prenup or she will bleed you dry if she divorces you.

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sven
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 08:55

Originally posted by Twirly

Do remember a prenup or she will bleed you dry if she divorces you.

Or make sure there is nothing to bleed

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WENGER
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 09:01

Originally posted by Twirly

^^Not if he marries during the 6 months.
Getting married at the cartorio is pretty straight forward.
Do remember a prenup or she will bleed you dry if she divorces you.

He has no money,he is not rich, otherwise he would have arrived sooner instead of skypeing for 6 months.
He has been working hard for the last 6 months to save the cash for Brazil.

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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 09:08

^^Oh my is he in for a shock when he meets her family, her children, her ex husband that she has a complicated relationship to.
You know, everything she forgot to mention on Skype

A lot of holding hands since without Google translate it will be complicated to communicate.

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joegringo
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 09:13

Getting married at the cartorio is a pretty straight forward thing if you are prepared and you came with a long form birth certificate and cash to translate it etc.
I agree that if he is rich, be careful. I doubt this is the case and that a prenup is necessary. And being that he is from Ireland, if they got married in Brazil and things went south, he could just go home. Their marriage would not be registered in Ireland so there would be nothing the courts in Ireland would do as far as taking his money and giving it to an ex wife.

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WENGER
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Posted: 15 February 2012 at 09:17

Me: Do you have a child ? You have never mentioned..
She: Because you never asked.

Me: Is this your own house or do you rent it ?
She: No, it is the house of my exmarido (you cannot visit me there, he lives in the house on the other side of the road and he is very jealous )

The above mentioned conversations really happened (in Portuguese language)

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