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spongebob
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Posted: 19 January 2012 at 13:32

@CheckPls, no offence taken. The media and mens' perceptions of women? I don't really recall any because before that, I had been living in Europe. In America I only remember that you are too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, too bald, too much hair, etc...

I remember going out with a lot of desperate women in their late 20s - mid 30s. Where I lived was quite "cold". All you could do was sit in traffic, work, sit in traffic again, and then watch TV alone and go to bed alone. I imagine a routine that for a woman with a ticking clock must be hell.

I think the best time for everybody is the early twenties, at least it was for me. Lots of hooking up with lots of different people and no pressure.

Globalisation? Brazil has some counter-measures against that seeing that almost everything is produced in Brazil. And the statistics have always backup up the fact that women tend to settle down close to their family - in all countries, even the US. So until we can re-write the genetic code for women, I doubt that's going to change anytime soon.

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Posted: 19 January 2012 at 13:48

ROFL ... until you said "too bald" I thought you were talking about what men think of US women....LOL

Don't like the cold myself but there are tons of things to do..... Agree with the 20s to the 30s. But in the 50s it is awesome, kids are grown and there are a whole lot of mature men to get to know and well as young guys to view....LOL

Again, here on the forum the men only talk about the beautiful women..... so not sure it is any different in Brasil...with the exception I make a kick as salary doing something I really like to do and not too far from retirement. From what I read Brasilian women don't stand a chance to make the kind of living that gives them the ability to be independant and have to rely on the kindness of strangers.

Both a man and a woman can work and still pamper each other. But I agree there are some women that have missed the whole point of not having it all. I am traditional so see things a bit different from most US women. But independence can be very sexy!

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Posted: 19 January 2012 at 16:44

Originally posted by CheckPls

ROFL ... until you said "too bald" I thought you were talking about what men think of US women....LOL

My wife has many friends (the majority), who do pretty well. Some even make a lot of money, even compared to American women. Some are doctors, dentists, you name it.
My wife IS lazy compared to all of her friends. She wanted a man to support her, exactly like you said. She works for me now, so at least I get something in return.

Maybe Brazil has changed a lot in this respect.... but maybe it's a class thing or family. Who knows.

Edited by spongebob - 19 January 2012 at 16:46

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Posted: 08 February 2012 at 14:06

Well, I think things are pretty much over with this chick. Things got to point where she got violent when she would get upset. F*ck that... Either throwing things at me or even sometimes grabbing me/hitting me, getting really physical, lol( laughing when this actually happens made things worse of course)....she would even try to goad me into hitting her( wtf?.. Like if I hit her it would justify her actions).... Of course, my reaction when this initially happened was complete shock, as I have never had a girl hit me or throw things at me before...And my first instinct as a human being when being attacked is to defend myself and hit back.... but I didn't.... so instead I would be left with a bunch of pent up adrenaline and anxiety and anger at her, which made me feel terrible... I would just tell her I'm not going to hit you, what's wrong with you, you don't hit people just because you're upset, etc etc...Then, as is typical, later on, she would be all remorseful... but I don't think she really cares... like she doesn't see it as a big deal, like it's all OK because she's angry and emotional.

Of course, being the stupid forgiving person I am I would let it slide ( it's not like she could actually physically hurt me, she's just a girl).... but it wasn't about the "wrongness" of hitting someone physically, as much as the fact that this girl would let things "descend" into that type of relationship. She didn't have the same standards for communication and "conflict resolution" i guess. The relationship was becoming way too base.

I think part of the problem was that I was justifying this behavior as just like that raw, primal male/female friction, and whether manifesting in either violent outbursts or dialogue didn't matter, or so I kept telling myself.... Because she was so attractive it's like I kept lying to myself, or imposing an ideal on a situation and person that was far removed reality. Then I realized I was just letting all my standards and values fall by the wayside while I tried to rationalize staying in a character deteriorating relationship. Leaving was tough though. On one hand you have a girl, who at least on a physical level, is going to be pretty tough to replace. On the other hand, if you don't leave, you know things won't get better. I guess the sacrifice of personal dignity wasn't worth it anymore... I dunno... I feel like I've been through the some crazy Brazilian grinder.

Edited by tom72 - 08 February 2012 at 14:07

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Posted: 08 February 2012 at 14:56

Sounds like you are opting out of a bad situation... Which at some point we are the only ones that can save ourselves. Doesn't make it any easier. I opted out of a relationship a couple of years back... he was a nice guy but the negativity started outweighing the positive... Unfortunately I wasted a few years thinking tomorrow will be better. I look back at that relationship and still say "what a dumbass I was...." LOL I have been out of that relationship for a couple years and I will tell you life does get better!! Found a good man and loving life.....

I don't think any of us here will deny having problems with our better halves.... just part of life.... but your story for me is unbelievable. Glad you are out of it.

Just don't look back.... relationships are two sided give and take on both sides....

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Posted: 08 February 2012 at 15:10

what you do is get a pillow..... and hit her with it..... hahaha .... then you say " pillow fight"

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Posted: 11 February 2012 at 19:10

I didn't read the whole thing, and I didn't read all the replies. I just don't have the time. But it looks like you and some other might have had some bad experiences with women from Brazil, or women in general.

Keep in mind people are the same statisticly no matter where you come from. Yes it might appear that people are friendlier from one country as opposed to a different country , but this is just culture.

Some cultures as more happy than others. Brazilian culture is happy.

Now back to the women. If you meet a screwed up girl then she is screwed up. just like a screwed up American girl, Or a screwed up girl from anywhere else. She's a screwed up girl. Don't let her screw you up.

I personally think Brazilian girls/women have much more to offer than American women. But that could be because I'm attracted to foriegn people as foriegn people are attracted to people foriegn to them. I think we are all interested in something different or exotic from our point of view. Anyone agree.

That being said if you meet a Brazilian girl at a strip joint, or a bar that's what you get; a brazilian stripped instead of an american stripper, or a brazilian drunk instead of an american drunk.

If you want to meet a nice girl from any culture you have to start with nice places.

If the girl start acting jelous or screwed up, is it what you are doing or is it her ? If it's you then it's your own fault, if it's her then dump her !

I've been happily married to a Brazilian woman for 10 years and we don't have any problems at all.

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