January 10, 2008
This is our regular column called Ask a Brazilian”, the idea being that you can quite literally ask a question of a Brazilian for those issues you aren’t sure about but perhaps dare not ask someone else. It is meant as a bit of fun and answers should not be construed as expert opinion or the definitive reply on the matter. For that reason we ask you to please send comments and experiences in order to add to our replies.
Is there any particular etiquette that you need to observe when trying to make friends with Brazilians?… is it just pot luck, like friendships generally, or are there some rules and regulations?
I kept wandering but i couldn’t think about any rules or regulations for making friends in Brazil. And maybe there are some, specially for gringoes, if not rules tips.
Speaking Portuguese! A Brazilian friend commonly comes with a group of friends. I don’t think you ‘have’ to speak Portuguese to make a friend but to be entertained in a Brazilian group you might need it.
Generally many stupid jokes are going on and they won’t be translated, or funny.
Recently I was with a friend, a gringo, and 20 other Brazilians on a trip. The guy was really happy because he never met so many people in his life. He was collecting e-mails and cell phone numbers, and was very content.
Then I wished I could warn him that most people will never write back or call. A Brazilian group of friends are big but closed. Most don’t seem interested in making new friends. I know it sounds stupid; it is stupid, but ‘generally’ that’s how it is. Anyways, if you can’t fit in a group, then one real friend is much better.
Paz e Amor for 2008, Niki!
Vanessa T. Bauer
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