October 12, 2007

This is our regular column called Ask a Brazilian”, the idea being that you can quite literally ask a question of a Brazilian for those issues you aren’t sure about but perhaps dare not ask someone else. It is meant as a bit of fun and answers should not be construed as expert opinion or the definitive reply on the matter. For that reason we ask you to please send comments and experiences in order to add to our replies.

Hey, Vanessa

I’ve heard Brazilians are uttlerly possessive and jealous. Is it true?

I always thought Brazilians where so liberal.

Best,

Ben

Ben,

Forget the naked carnival pictures you’ve seen, Brazil is a 3 C’s society: Conservative, Christian and Chauvinistic. In “general”, of course, the answer for your question is: Yes, it is true.

It won’t be easy to convince a Brazilian to share you with someone else. Not at all.

I know this ONE person that has a polyamorous relationship, he is known as “the pervert”. So, in Brazil, if you have an open relationship it’s better not to tell anyone.

And isn’t everywhere else this way?

Brazilians are like any other, Ben: they dream about a prince and being a mother. It’s a nature thing.

Some women might kill me if I don’t say that more and more women work, earn their own money and don’t really care about having a man at home, or a kid, specially in a big city.

You might find more possessive women in a small town, where girls who are 18 are already worried about getting married and are willing to kill some other woman that comes to ruin that dream (and women here don’t seem to care if that guy you are with is your boyfriend or not, if she wants him, she will probably go for it.)

And again, isn’t everywhere else this way?

Don’t give up with Brazilians yet, Ben, they are fun and very good mothers! ;)

Beijos,

Vanessa T. Bauer

Are there any burning questions you have about Brazil, or other issues that you’re curious about, such as Brazilian culture? If so, send your questions to gringoes@www.gringoes.com with “Ask a Brazilian” in the subject. We will forward to our Brazilian experts, and publish the best questions (and replies) on the site.

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