July 5, 2009

This is our regular column called Ask a Brazilian”, the idea being that you can quite literally ask a question of a Brazilian – for those issues you aren’t sure about but perhaps dare not ask someone else. It is meant as a bit of fun and answers should not be construed as expert opinion or the definitive reply on the matter. For that reason we ask you to please send your own comments and experiences in order to add to our replies.

What is the culture for dating in Brazil? I mean a serious courtship and the dating period (length). The engagement period length? What is typical as far as intimate relationships? Are they conservative (waiting for consummation longer than in the USA)?

— Amy

Hi Amy,

Oh dear, I don’t know.

Maybe it’s the same everywhere. You meet someone you like, someone likes you back… suddenly you’re drinking coffee, in a relationship, engaged, married, moving to Australia… It’s hard to say how you do that. If there are some good lines to say, or a perfect time to act, any ideal this and that for Brazilians, I’m afraid I am not aware of any. Sorry.

Maybe some of our readers can find something typically Brazilian when it comes to love? We might have good ones.

Thanks for your question and good luck,

Vanessa

Readers comments:

Hi, Amy.

Mutual understanding and acceptance of cultural differences, or the lack thereof, can sure make or break a cross-cultural relationship! I am a 29-year-old Brazilian who’s lived in the US from age 15 to 23, so as far as the dating culture in Brazil goes, even though I’ve had a Brazilian boyfriend, I can be quite a gringa. But a very observant and well rooted one, so I feel confident I can compare and contrast.

Please note that when I say Brazilians or Brazil, I most likely mean people in São Paulo and São Paulo city. And, of course, my views on each topic you mentioned might change with the addition of other factors such as age group, social background, etc. Anyway, if you are wondering about it for yourself, there is nothing like a Brazilian girl or guy friend to advise you. I suggest Ask a Brazilian: Gossip
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